Men that behave differently in relationships. (single, attracted, kids, accept)
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It all comes down to not being available 24/7, not doing too much for him to please him, not lose your own identity and valuing yourself more.
The guy might not even be a bad person, but once you are too eager to please him all the time, many naturally "abuse" it and treat you lesser as you deserve. Because YOU showed him that you are always there no matter what.
It is tough to learn but that's the key. I just moved out of my bf's house and one of the reasons is the doormat thingy (it is not that bad but I want to stop it right in the beginning) and I am trying to change my behavior to save our relationship.
But when I am to nice, I get used and abused. Current bf has all the freedom in the world, which is why he does not come home at night, and does nothing at the house.
My ex husband was just not into me. He was always in love with my best friend. Guess who he is now with? Yup my former best friend.
You chose to stay with somebody who wasn't interested in you (i.e. was using you). That's on you.
You don't set boundaries or expectations on acceptable behavior. That's also on you.
People will treat you how you accept them treating you. Stop accepting it.
But when I am to nice, I get used and abused. Current bf has all the freedom in the world, which is why he does not come home at night, and does nothing at the house.
My ex husband was just not into me. He was always in love with my best friend. Guess who he is now with? Yup my former best friend.
Balance the nice and ugly side of you;helps uphold well;respect
If you do not want to continuously get yourself in to situations where you have to "lay down ground rules" you need to carry yourself as you want to be treated.
This is something most people go through when learning how they relate to others. It gets harder as time progresses to break out of.
Well how do I stop allowing myself to be a doormat?
Be sweet, happy in your skin, brag about your friends and family, basically dig life, and be radiant and don't be afraid to let it show, but at the same time, Don't ever come off needy and controlling because you don't need anybody. Moving forward, guys dig woman who are independent, I know this attitude works for me, the more I have to work the more I want, and I'm willing to do what ever it takes to make my girl happy. ;-))
Last edited by Knightly Knight; 08-20-2015 at 12:02 PM..
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