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A man/parent that truly wants to be with their daughter will move heaven and earth to be with her.
Sure, I guess I could uproot myself, quit my job that I just got and move 8 hours back to live in a town with no job opportunities and a 1000 people..that's what you suggest?
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Originally Posted by Raena77
If you pay support, you have rights. I call bs on not being able to see her unless you did something unlawful.
Well, you can call whatever you want, but I did nothing unlawful. I could get an attorney and fight I suppose, you got 5000 dollars to get started? Because that was the quote that I got last time, notice thats JUST TO START, and even then it doesn't mean anything, they could pull her into court, tell her to let me see her and I still wouldn't be able to, happened to a buddy of mine, he brought his ex to court 6 times, still can't see his kid.
So, I know I started this about CS, but I started thinking of hypothetical situations, what if a person got arrested but got the arrest expunged and/or sealed, should they have to tell someone that they are dating that they got arrested even though there is no record of it? The law states that if a record is expunged and/or sealed, that you can legally deny it.
What if you change your name? Let's say a person started over and changed their name, would they have to tell that too? I mean where does that line cross?
Thats exactly what the brother thinks, she is like 8 hours away and i have tried calling numerous times and leaving voicemail messages, what would you have me do?
What you should have done is file for a visitation court order and file contempt charges every time the mother withheld the daughter.
Sure, I guess I could uproot myself, quit my job that I just got and move 8 hours back to live in a town with no job opportunities and a 1000 people..that's what you suggest?
Well, you can call whatever you want, but I did nothing unlawful. I could get an attorney and fight I suppose, you got 5000 dollars to get started? Because that was the quote that I got last time, notice thats JUST TO START, and even then it doesn't mean anything, they could pull her into court, tell her to let me see her and I still wouldn't be able to, happened to a buddy of mine, he brought his ex to court 6 times, still can't see his kid.
You can march right into your local court house, locate the pro we office and they will hand you the papers to fill out for free, then you pay a small filing fee. $120 in the state I live in, which happens to be one of the more expensive states.
So, I know I started this about CS, but I started thinking of hypothetical situations, what if a person got arrested but got the arrest expunged and/or sealed, should they have to tell someone that they are dating that they got arrested even though there is no record of it? The law states that if a record is expunged and/or sealed, that you can legally deny it.
What if you change your name? Let's say a person started over and changed their name, would they have to tell that too? I mean where does that line cross?
Anything as important or similar to these need to be shared. It is the decent thing to do. And if she found out some other way, it would backfire on you.
Tell her in a discussion about being exclusive or during the time you both agree you are committed to each other, whether that is when you move in together or marriage. Certainly BEFORE she makes a big committment. If she is then woman you think she is, all will be fine. But if she can't love all of you, it's better to know now.
Because if she wouldn't, love you despite the fact it is in the past or in the face of a name change but you're honest, there are bound to be other problems due to not seeing eye to eye.
And yes, do go to court. Is your daughter almost 18? You need to let your daughter know you want her in your life before the daughter gives up on wanting a relationship. Best wishes.
Last edited by Wild Flower; 08-23-2015 at 06:38 AM..
You can make all sorts of excuses for not seeing her, but the truth of the matter is if you wanted to be in your child's life you would be. And yes, many people will judge you harshly even if you continued to pay child support. Deservedly so.
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