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I've seen the stories of tragic events happening to a mom/kids with a crazy stepdad. Down in the comments section there's always a bunch of "she couldn't have simply done an internet search on this guy??? For _____ sake she had her children around him! What an awful mother!"
She was just being smart. I'd rather date that than some idiot single mother who just trusts everyone around her kids.
I've seen such instances, too. And 9.9 times out of 10, they ignored or downplayed the red flags that you're not going to find in a Google search.
while i can see both sides of the argument, i have to say that these days its wise to protect yourself from predators, especially if you are a single female with young children.
its going to happen more and more so you have a choice, you can either reconcile your past and be upfront about issues in your past, or you can get upset each time it happens, run off into a corner and sulk and get out of the dating market and be alone the rest of your life.
one thing you can do to prepare though is to google yourself and find out what it really out there on you. if you find any false information, then take steps to fix the problems.
I've seen the stories of tragic events happening to a mom/kids with a crazy stepdad. Down in the comments section there's always a bunch of "she couldn't have simply done an internet search on this guy??? For _____ sake she had her children around him! What an awful mother!"
She was just being smart. I'd rather date that than some idiot single mother who just trusts everyone around her kids.
No no no no, don't you see, it's all about LOTRFan! His little feelings are so much more important than anyone else's sense of well-being and safety! Strangers should trust him with all of our most precious possessions because....we just because he is super special. Never mind that he comes from a sketchy family and has enough skeletons in his closet that he fears exposure. WE MUSTN'T HURT HIS FRAGILE EGO!
Talk about a leap in logic: she googled him therefore she needs money to raise her kids.
You aren't the only one wondering about that leap of ill-logic.
The OP's reaction and attempt at justification of his behavior are huge red flags....I hope the woman spotted them.
Oh.. and OP...the woman probably didn't respond not because her silence means she thinks your right....but that she's at least smart enough to know you don't escalate an argument with someone that is unreasonable...especially when you don't know them well. You shut up and back away.
You really think a women you meet IRL won't Google your name? Oh wait...are you the o n e that won't tell people your name?
Do you give out your full real name when dating online before meeting the person?
Some women seem to think its appropriate for all men to give up their full real name online prior to meeting, while retaining their own anonymity so they can run some Google search.
All that so we can meet in "a public setting" to get know each other better. Its not like I'm asking to meet in some back alley or unlit parking lot @2am, LOl.
I have absolutely no issues someone doing any background search, just not before we have met in person.
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Ladies. Never meet a stranger whose name you don't know. Tell at least one friend this name and where you will be meeting.
Geez, this is common knowledge that I have been following since the '70s. Men should do this too.
ETA, yes, I would give my full name before meeting someone.
When you meet people at bars and parties or shows, do you ask them their last name before being willing to talk to them?
I never have. Never met a woman that has.
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