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Made me think: I married for love and got the lifestyle I want, or was it I love my lifestyle because I married the love I wanted?
Either way I'm happy.
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I have been reading Penelope Trunk for years. I have read every single one of her blogs. It's funny that she doesn't practice what she preaches. She's the breadwinner in her family. However, her career allows her to work from home. I do agree that a family with a breadwinner husband/housewife is more successful than any other type of family. People try to put down SAHM and say they will get traded in and all this and that... scare tactics! The couples I see getting divorced are the ones with a lazy a$$ husband that is not a good provider....wife finds someone better or decides she can do bad all by herself OR TWO WORKING PEOPLE...husband and wife both have their own careers. I can't name one personal SAHM I know that ended up divorced. I "of" some but their divorce settlements worked out in their favor.
That depends largely on the vales of the individual couple. I don't consider my working to be a failure, because it takes a financial burden off the Mr. and allows him to be a more active presence in our children's lives. We have no desire to relegate ourselves to separate "spheres".
Made me think: I married for love and got the lifestyle I want, or was it I love my lifestyle because I married the love I wanted?
Either way I'm happy.
Everyone has different desires. I just think its naive to want to be a wealthy SAHM and then go date a school teacher. I believe in being realistic. I know some women who are very upset in their marriages because they wanted certain things and a certain lifestyle but didn't really take that under consideration when dating. You can't just wish that a man will make $1 Million/year. Every guy is not that ambitious. And if you want that type of man, don't date a man who is comfortable living a lower middle class lifestyle.
That depends largely on the vales of the individual couple. I don't consider my working to be a failure, because it takes a financial burden off the Mr. and allows him to be a more active presence in our children's lives. We have no desire to relegate ourselves to separate "spheres".
Good for you! I personally don't believe in daycare. I would definitely have a nanny that worked under my close supervision. But I just don't see the point in having a baby and then dropping it off at a daycare Monday- Friday for 8 hours so I can go to work and take the pressure off my husband.
Everyone has different desires. I just think its naive to want to be a wealthy SAHM and then go date a school teacher. I believe in being realistic. I know some women who are very upset in their marriages because they wanted certain things and a certain lifestyle but didn't really take that under consideration when dating. You can't just wish that a man will make $1 Million/year. Every guy is not that ambitious. And if you want that type of man, don't date a man who is comfortable living a lower middle class lifestyle.
Your too naive to know that after 10 years of that you'll be complaining about a loveless marriage. There is always the pool boy though.
But I don't really know you. Being a trophy wife may be just the thing for you.
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Good for you! I personally don't believe in daycare. I would definitely have a nanny that worked under my close supervision. But I just don't see the point in having a baby and then dropping it off at a daycare Monday- Friday for 8 hours so I can go to work and take the pressure off my husband.
My kids were never in full-time daycare. Maybe 15 hours/week, max.
Your too naive to know that after 10 years of that you'll be complaining about a loveless marriage. There is always the pool boy though.
But I don't really know you. Being a trophy wife may be just the thing for you.
There is nothing naive about me. I think it's funny when people (like you) attempt to down play women who want to marry well or people that value money by saying that they'll end up unhappy. Let's consider all the married people that don't have enough income. They can't make rent, can't afford to put braces on their kids jacked up teeth, can't afford for their kids to participate in extracurricular activities, sharing one car, can't pay their kids tuition so their kids end up with $100K student loan debt, can't buy their kids a car, can't go on family vacations? What about those people. Oh yeah, they are the happy ones because their kids will grow up and say we didn't have money to eat out but we sure did have good memories with parents stressing and fighting about money. Those are the naive people. The naive people that didn't really stop to think how expensive it was to run a household and provide for children long term. Sorry, you can call me naive all day long. I know some naive people. There are some naive couples at my church I attend. I don't pity them one bit because they made the calculated or uncalculated decision to dive head first into a situation that they could not handle financially. And their kids are paying for it...
Naive is thinking that either money, or love, alone will bring happiness. They are two ends of the same spectrum.
Don't get your knickers all in a knot though, like I already said: I don't know you, being a trophy wife may be the thing for you.
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