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Ladies, his girlfriend doesn't own him. That's the problem with your attitude. Therefore, if OP wants to meat with the guy, she's not stealing anything. He's a big boy and whatever blame is there to be, lays on him. If he cheats, he cheats, not the OP. OP is just having good time with a guy whom she seems to like.
She decided to break off with him. Her choice. I'd say it's probably the smartest choice, but not because she has no right to talk to that guy, more because he's not likely to break away from his GF if he didn't do it already.
His girlfriend may not own him, but I feel like even the OP knows that it is getting into a moral gray area. It doesn't mean she can't be friends with a guy who has a girlfriend, but you shut down romantic talk because you owe it to yourself to respect the boundaries that you would want to have respected.
And you are right on one thing - that if the she met up with the guy and they were to cheat.... the OP would be relegated to the role of Good Time Girl, not Relationship Girl if that is her goal. It's all about which part do you want to play and what role will you accept for scraps of attention.
Ladies, his girlfriend doesn't own him. That's the problem with your attitude. Therefore, if OP wants to meat with the guy, she's not stealing anything. He's a big boy and whatever blame is there to be, lays on him. If he cheats, he cheats, not the OP. OP is just having good time with a guy whom she seems to like.
She decided to break off with him. Her choice. I'd say it's probably the smartest choice, but not because she has no right to talk to that guy, more because he's not likely to break away from his GF if he didn't do it already.
I'm gonna agree with you. It's all fairly harmless til someone catches feelings. But there definitely comes a time when enough is enough and if it ain't goin nowhere, why even bother.. No need to go all dramatic & block the dude, (unless you're IN LOVE) . . . just get your mind right & give him the fade.
It's not dramatic. It's practical, and it's not for him, it's for her.
She's gonna go through withdrawals from all the attention he's been giving her, and blocking him will help her "get her mind right."
That and - she won't be subjected to seeing this guy and this girl's relationship on social media anymore. All it would take is one too many Natty Lights (is that still what college kids drink these days?) at a party to come back and post something about it on a picture of the two of them she posted or something.
It's not dramatic. It's practical, and it's not for him, it's for her.
She's gonna go through withdrawals from all the attention he's been giving her, and blocking him will help her "get her mind right."
Lol, blocking is like theee most dramatic action a woman can take apart from setting a man's car on fire.. I agree with the OP when she states it would just make things "awkward".. !
Lol, blocking is like theee most dramatic action a woman can take apart from setting a man's car on fire.. I agree with the OP when she states it would just make things "awkward".. !
Talk about dramatic.
There are about 50 steps in between blocking him on social media and setting his car on fire.
The definition of cheating is getting a reward through dishonesty, or acting unfairly to gain an advantage. The OP is certainly doing both.
If a single person is involved with a committed person, to the point that the single person would have to lie upon meeting the SO, they are definitely cheating too.
I love this reminder on what the definition of cheating actually is. It takes away all the excuses that come when you want to justify something you know is wrong. Like the "catch feelings." That makes my brain implode a little. It takes away all responsibility. "I was just walking by and boom!!! Caught feelings, not my fault. It's contagious." Bull, if you don't put yourself in these type of situations you don't end up with inappropriate emotions for inappropriate people.
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Well feelings do happen but what we are responsible for is what we choose to do or not do ... aka our actions and how we conduct ourselves. Having feelings, whatever they may be, is not an excuse to act in way that will harm another person. Sure, people rationalize it all the time, but it's still wrong and they know it even when they pretend they don't.
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I agree with the OP when she states it would just make things "awkward".. !
