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So in my culture, engagements work a little differently.
The guy proposes but the formal 'engagement' happens during a dinner/party where both families gather and the girl and guy exchange rings. That is when the couple is announced as being engaged.
So anyways, prior to the engagement my bf and I were having a lot of fights and issues. So a couple of days before the engagement dinner was set to happen, my bf had another major fight. So I suggested that perhaps we delay the engagement until after we both resolved some important issues, and things were back to normal, as I was having a lot of doubts as well. This has completely infuriated him, and has caused such a rage. Was it rude for me to suggest this?
I guess I don't see the wisdom in accepting a marriage proposal in the first place during a period of "lots of fights and issues." Etiquette should not be your focus, here.
So in my culture, engagements work a little differently.
The guy proposes but the formal 'engagement' happens during a dinner/party where both families gather and the girl and guy exchange rings. That is when the couple is announced as being engaged.
So anyways, prior to the engagement my bf and I were having a lot of fights and issues. So a couple of days before the engagement dinner was set to happen, my bf had another major fight. So I suggested that perhaps we delay the engagement until after we both resolved some important issues, and things were back to normal, as I was having a lot of doubts as well. This has completely infuriated him, and has caused such a rage. Was it rude for me to suggest this?
"Rude" is not the issue. If you're having doubts, and there are frequent fights, you shouldn't be getting engaged. It would be much "ruder" (whatever that means in this context) to call off the engagement and wedding after the big announcement had been made in front of the families.
You did the right thing, and he doesn't like it. Too bad for him. This doesn't sound like someone you should be marrying. Do you really want a marriage full of fights? And rage?
I think, you should reconsider the entire relationship. The lack to resolve issues efficiently tells me you guys just aren't there yet, especially marriage.
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