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Absolutely incorrect. Not all older virgins have issues. For most, like myself, it just hasn't happened yet or they are simply not attractive enough to the opposite sex.
Hasn't happened yet? Despite trying for 20+ years and being a pretty normal guy? Give me a break.
I'll buy the not attractive enough if someone is totally hideous in terms of socially acceptable looks that he can't attract anyone at all (but unless you are far worse that those featured in "People of Walmart, I'm not buying this one either).
whos to say they arent trying to better themselves?
Generally, people who blame outside factors, rather than taking personal responsibility, don't really attempt to better themselves.
I suppose there could be exceptions. Maybe those virgins who blame outside factors can explain what they are doing to better themselves to increase their chances of success in this area.
Again, what was your point? I'm interested in hearing it.
Just a guy, since you've done nothing but rag on the posters on this forum, (not just this thread but in general). I wonder what your story is. Are you willing to put yourself out here for criticism?
Hasn't happened yet? Despite trying for 20+ years and being a pretty normal guy? Give me a break.
I'll buy the not attractive enough if someone is totally hideous in terms of socially acceptable looks that he can't attract anyone at all (but unless you are far worse that those featured in "People of Walmart, I'm not buying this one either).
I don't care if you buy it or not. No one is entitled to sex and relationships and not all people get them either. That's life.
Absolutely incorrect. Not all older virgins have issues. For most, like myself, it just hasn't happened yet or they are simply not attractive enough to the opposite sex.
Ya know, I had a post written out about this, and decided it was getting ahead of myself.
If it "just hasn't happened yet," it means he hasn't put love and relationships on the same level as I have. He was too busy doing other things--work, travel, whatever. That's a major incompatibility with me because I valued dating, relationships, and yes, sex, enough to seek them out and make time for them. People have always been more important to me than money, career, or things. I want someone whose character meshes with that at its very core.
As for not being attractive enough, I don't buy it. I'll just be blunt and say there are some butt-ugly homely people having toe-curling sex in happy relationships out there, so that sounds like a huge cop-out to me. If you're talking about trappings, there are plenty of modest, quiet, shy, unmaterialistic, unemployed, poor people out there in relationships, too.
No, it's all a matter of choice. People who get to be 40-year-old virgins have chosen to be that way, either deliberately or as a side effect of the other choices they've made in life. Either way, the values behind those choices absolutely do not mesh with mine.
No, it's all a matter of choice. People who get to be 40-year-old virgins have chosen to be that way, either deliberately or as a side effect of the other choices they've made in life. Either way, the values behind those choices absolutely do not mesh with mine.
you absolutely do not know that for a fact..and its arrogant n insulting to think that
Ya know, I had a post written out about this, and decided it was getting ahead of myself.
If it "just hasn't happened yet," it means he hasn't put love and relationships on the same level as I have. He was too busy doing other things--work, travel, whatever. That's a major incompatibility with me because I valued dating, relationships, and yes, sex, enough to seek them out and make time for them. People have always been more important to me than money, career, or things. I want someone whose character meshes with that at its very core.
As for not being attractive enough, I don't buy it. I'll just be blunt and say there are some butt-ugly homely people having toe-curling sex in happy relationships out there, so that sounds like a huge cop-out to me. If you're talking about trappings, there are plenty of modest, quiet, shy, unmaterialistic, unemployed, poor people out there in relationships, too.
No, it's all a matter of choice. People who get to be 40-year-old virgins have chosen to be that way, either deliberately or as a side effect of the other choices they've made in life. Either way, the values behind those choices absolutely do not mesh with mine.
You are entitled to your preferences. What irritates me is posters saying older virgins have issues when it clearly isn't the case with most older virgins.
you absolutely do not know that for a fact..and its arrogant n insulting to think that
Speaking of dragging things out, if you are so convinced of it not being about you and your choices and/or personality handicaps, why do you care what the non-virgins think?
you absolutely do not know that for a fact..and its arrogant n insulting to think that
Nah I don't find what she said arrogant and insulting. I just think it is what it is. Some people just don't want it bad enough. I don't see it as a bad or good thing.
You are entitled to your preferences. What irritates me is posters saying older virgins have issues when it clearly isn't the case with most older virgins.
Really? You mean if someone wants something that 95% of the population has, but can't achieve that one thing in 20+ years, you think there are not issues there?
It's everything else except their own issues, right?
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