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I'm sure there's been a thread on this before, but I just can't find it. So was just wondering what site are you guys having the most success on?
Currently I'm on match, and have been since March but my membership is up for renewal in a couple of weeks and thinking of taking a break from this site, since I haven't really found anyone that interests me on there in the past couple of months. Prior to Match, I was on jdate for a while, so was thinking of going back but when I did a search on there, found it to be the same exact people that were on there 2 years ago when I left the site. So any suggestions? I'm a bit leery of using free sites so I'd prefer a paid site.
I wouldn't be leery of free sites if I were you. I found Match and Eharmony to be much more useless than the free sites.
I was on Match off and on for years, had a few good dates, a handful of bad ones, and one very so-so relationship that lasted a few months.
I only met maybe 3 or 4 guys from POF, but one of them was my husband. So...I guess POF was more successful for me.
I never used OK Cupid, it seemed to be gaining popularity around the time I met my husband a little over 3 years ago. Seemed to skew younger. I had no idea it was owned by Match.
I've used mainly OKC and POF and while I tend to like the format of OKC better, I get more dates and relationships with POF. Also, lately I deleted my profile on OKC b/c something went haywire with the matching system and it has me listed as very kinky! I went thru and looked at my match questions and I can't figure out for the life of me where they're getting that but it sure is getting me some unwanted attention.
Online hates me. Basically everyone I met was an ill-adjusted weirdo. I am also not photogenic and my "type" is not popular online. I find I meet better people in real life, where I shine through more! I am warm and friendly in real life and you can't see that in an online profile.
* If you are white or asian in the Bay Area online is a breeze. If you are not, you will get any number of they types of psychos that are out there responding to you.
OP, doesn't Match has a 6 month guarantee that if you don't meet someone, you get the next 6 months for free, or did you not sign up for 6 months upfront? Do they still do that, or did they have to stop due to giving away too many free subscriptions?
Yes they still have it, I didn't sign up for 6 months up front though, I did three month increments. They're now offering me another 3 months for the price of one, but I still think I need to get off the site for a bit, so it's not about the money.
I dislike online dating immensely. If I could start a nationwide campaign against it, I would but there are a few people who seem to benefit from it.
For the most part, I hear nothing but awkward, weird dates. Why? Because online dating by definition(in my opinion) is super awkward.
It goes against nature, chemistry and some of the most basic laws of Physics and Science, the natural way of meeting someone involves flirting, talking, pursuing, chemistry which can only be done if you talk or see someone face-to-face.
With that being said, I like Tinder because it is fun, it more casual and it is more like playing a game. It has no matching, no profile to fill out, you see someone you like, you like them and if they like you, then anything can happen.
I think the future of dating will either go towards Tinder(simpler, hook-up type of apps) or hopefully go back to the old days when people met at places like dances and balls- what a great way to meet people!
I've gone through periods of intense activity in POF and OKC, followed by periods of stasis and inattention. Observations:
1. With enough perseverance, it is possible to find girlfriend-material (mine being the male perspective), but it is inordinately harder to find a mutual match with a potential life-partner.
2. People are capricious and noncommittal; I believe that the vernacular term for this is "flaky". I've had several instances where an intimate and presumably mutually-satisfying relationship was terminated with no notice.
3. Obviously, areas with low population density will offer fewer options, and will necessitate longer driving-distances.
4. Echoing what others have noted here and elsewhere, my best dates tended to have been those where the woman contacted me first, and not vice versa.
Thus, my cunning plan for reforming online dating: institute a policy where ONLY women could contact men. Men would not be able to initiate contact. That would remove the louche and obscene messages by men, improving security for women. And it would motivate the women to become more active.
I've gone through periods of intense activity in POF and OKC, followed by periods of stasis and inattention. Observations:
1. With enough perseverance, it is possible to find girlfriend-material (mine being the male perspective), but it is inordinately harder to find a mutual match with a potential life-partner.
2. People are capricious and noncommittal; I believe that the vernacular term for this is "flaky". I've had several instances where an intimate and presumably mutually-satisfying relationship was terminated with no notice.
3. Obviously, areas with low population density will offer fewer options, and will necessitate longer driving-distances.
4. Echoing what others have noted here and elsewhere, my best dates tended to have been those where the woman contacted me first, and not vice versa.
Thus, my cunning plan for reforming online dating: institute a policy where ONLY women could contact men. Men would not be able to initiate contact. That would remove the louche and obscene messages by men, improving security for women. And it would motivate the women to become more active.
Coincidentally my best dates have been the ones where I initiated contact as well, so there must be something to it! Haha
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