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I'm sure there's been a thread on this before, but I just can't find it. So was just wondering what site are you guys having the most success on?
Currently I'm on match, and have been since March but my membership is up for renewal in a couple of weeks and thinking of taking a break from this site, since I haven't really found anyone that interests me on there in the past couple of months. Prior to Match, I was on jdate for a while, so was thinking of going back but when I did a search on there, found it to be the same exact people that were on there 2 years ago when I left the site. So any suggestions? I'm a bit leery of using free sites so I'd prefer a paid site.
I've not had BAD luck with any I've tried (which occurred over the course of a lengthy period in my twenties and a brief period in my thirties a good ten-ish years apart from one another). I've done paid (match.com) and free (OKC). For a while, I had a profile on both simultaneously, and my experience was that it was a lot of the same guys, so many people in my area were using both free and paid.
I met my husband via OKC, so I'd call that decent luck. I approached him, FWIW.
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Depends on the years, and the definition of success.
I had some good luck with CL in the early 00s, but wouldn't touch it now.
The Onion / Nerve personals were excellent, super high quality people, in the mid 00s. That's defunct.
Match was meh, lots of good people, but super normy.
OKC is consistently the best IMO. Great algorithms. Never met a 95%+ match that I didn't get a long with. You can learn a lot of about people. It's free, yet has many super cool and high quality colorful professionals.
Yep, I used more varied services in my twenties than I did in my thirties (only used them for a few months in my thirties, so just match and OKC, then). Back in the day, it was match, yahoo personals (defunct now, I assume), one that was geared or young democrats/liberals specifically, but which didn't have a lot of people from my area, lavalife (could be super skanky, that was more entertainment than actually hoping to meet anybody, don't even know if it still exists), the onion/nerve one (pretty limited participation in my area), and the Chicago Reader's readermatches. I think I might have checked out POF when it was new, but I don't think I used it. But I online dated much longer in my twenties than I did in my thirties. My lifestyle (young single, professional female in a very remote, rural area) then demanded it more than my lifestyle by the time I was in my thirties, by which point I was living around a much higher population of compatible peers.
I will admit that the algorithm aspect of OKC was wasted on me, because I never bothered with doing most of the survey questions. I based who I sought out communication with pretty much entirely on how their profile was written, because I didn't do enough of the quiz stuff to really be flying on the "percent match" radar. When guys approached me, I based my desire to meet them solely on the strength of their written profile and how they engaged me online. The percent matching thing is cool, I just really didn't avail myself of it in particular. Worked out fine, though.
Back in the day, it was match, yahoo personals (defunct now, I assume), one that was geared or young democrats/liberals specifically, but which didn't have a lot of people from my area, lavalife (could be super skanky, that was more entertainment than actually hoping to meet anybody, don't even know if it still exists), the onion/nerve one (pretty limited participation in my area), and the Chicago Reader's readermatches.
Yahoo personals was taken over by Chemistry.com, which is owned by the same company as Match. Which also owns Ok Cupid, Tinder and a few others. I wonder if that's really why the same people are "on" both OKC and Match - they just upload the profiles to both sites?
Back in the day, I had the best luck with AOL chatrooms. Do those even still exist? I haven't had luck with OLD in recent years, but the only site I've met someone off of is OKC. I've only tried CL, Match, eHarmony and OKC, though a couple of my friends seem to be having better luck getting dates from Tinder than OKC so I'm toying with trying that. Word on the street around here is avoid POF at all costs.
Overall, I seem to do better with speed dating. I translate better in real life than I do on paper. The few men I've actually dated throughout adulthood, I met when I wasn't looking. In fact, the last one I dated, I so didn't even want to go out that night, I didn't even bother to brush my hair!
OP, doesn't Match has a 6 month guarantee that if you don't meet someone, you get the next 6 months for free, or did you not sign up for 6 months upfront? Do they still do that, or did they have to stop due to giving away too many free subscriptions?
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