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Sounds like both parties are narcissists. The outcome was likely inevitable.
Marriages take work and a lot of communication. It's rather apparent that neither is taking place. The relationship has had 10 years to develop, but maybe fester is a better word here. It's incredibly easy to grow apart and not know it until a conflict like this starts to happen.
In the 10 years of...whatever this is...has there been any discussion about goals? It sounds like neither of you are interested in having kids, but there should always be a common goal you are both working to accomplish.
I would recommend therapy, but you would have to be willing to put in the work and I don't see any indication that will happen. It's also concerning that she has been gone for two weeks now and you haven't made a real effort to find her. If this was her way of trying to determine how much you care about the marriage, I'm guessing you failed.
I've been a-studyin' on that for quite some time, Dewdroplet76, and so far, I'm not having much luck. All I can figure out so far is that he is either:
A - sneak bragging about how what he did what was RIGHT and HARD and HOW ABUSED he was and new wants us all to pat him on the back for being so STRONG after having endured such HARDSHIP (I think I'll lie down on my fainting couch now )
OR
B - well - I'm still working on B. I haven't quite gotten there yet. I'll get back to you on B - but I warn you - it could be awhile - I really don't have that much time to spend thinking about his nonsense, nor do I have much of an inclination to.
Modern marriage is an unlimited partnership this means another human being has the right to assign you debt against your will
You give up constitutional rights when u marry no due process being #1
Don't do this again
Most anti feminism dopes on here haven't a clue as to what feminism is (never mind the differences between the waves of feminism). Yes, if any of them ever had a daughter, I can almost guarantee you they would become a feminist in a second as they would want their daughters to be able to pursue any path in life that they wanted to and have every opportunity any male child would have.
But yes, most women I know have a saving and investing plan, so I'm always surprised by the cartoonish Imelda Marcos type women the fellows in citydata seem to find. I used to just assume they thought Sex and the City was a documentary.
Yet, your discretionary spending is NOT "unnecessary," because "you work hard."
There's a difference between squandering all of one's money on frivolities, and spending it on the household + a few hobbies, and saving and investing the rest. Next time your rent is due, just offer the landlord shoes and see how far that gets you.
There's a difference between squandering all of one's money on frivolities, and spending it on the household + a few hobbies, and saving and investing the rest. Next time your rent is due, just offer the landlord shoes and see how far that gets you.
That's your opinion, obviously not shared by your significant other. Just because she doesn't share the same interests as you do does not make hers any less relevant. You should both be on a budget, but as long as you stay within the confines of that budget, neither of you should care how you spend that money.
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