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Well, she must be willing to give something up if she says she CONTRIBUTES ...
Erm, no, I said she claimed early on that she would contribute to our expenses, which she rarely does. So no, she has proven herself unwilling to contribute, which is why I don't believe her, and which is why I didn't take her seriously when she turned on the tears, which, incidentally, is one of her preferred methods of trying to get her way. She has always known that I'm not interested in living in a fancy house, yet she has stayed with me. Like I said, I have savings and investments. You figure it out.
OP. If you are good with money why did you prefer renting for 10 years. Rather than buying your own house? Doesn't make any sense.
There are good arguments both in favor of and against owning a home. I always preferred to rent. But actually I think I will buy a house now, and I have enough money to do so.
There are good arguments both in favor of and against owning a home. I always preferred to rent. But actually I think I will buy a house now, and I have enough money to do so.
Suddenly, now you want to buy a house, after your gf walked out? Walked out because you didn't want to buy a house?
Do tell us more about your sudden interest in buying a house.
Erm, no, I said she claimed early on that she would contribute to our expenses, which she rarely does. So no, she has proven herself unwilling to contribute, which is why I don't believe her, and which is why I didn't take her seriously when she turned on the tears, which, incidentally, is one of her preferred methods of trying to get her way. She has always known that I'm not interested in living in a fancy house, yet she has stayed with me. Like I said, I have savings and investments. You figure it out.
Again, OP, why haven't you discussed with her the lack of follow-through on her promise to contribute to expenses? You seem so unhappy about it, but it doesn't sound like you ever communicated with her about it. So you let your resentment fester for 10 years? That's what it looks like from here, with all the pent-up anger you're expressing on this thread. If that's inaccurate, please fill us in.
I think your marriage was headed for divorce long before this. This issue only brought everything to a head.
So tell us, if she works full time, and you work part-time from home, how are the household chores divided up? Do you contribute to that proportionately according to your greater leisure time?
I find it interesting that these posts are not even that believable. I could make up a tall tale that sounded more sensible than a half dozen true stories I could tell. Basic fictionwriting or theatre stuff. Your characters need to do things for a reason. The dialogue needs to flow smoothly enough to be plausible. Any long term behavior pattern needs to be explainable by some extenuating circumstance.
Yup. (as "sealie" said.) For one thing, in 10 years, it sounds like there was never any pooling of funds. Normally, a married couple will deposit their earnings into a shared account, and any expensive purchases (like the OP says he makes occasionally) will be discussed before they are made. Excessive discretionary buying (like on the wife's part, in the OP's story) would also be discussed. Living expenses would be paid from the join account, so that there wouldn't be any issue at all about who's paying how much, because both would be putting their earnings into the mutual account from which expenses would be paid. There would be no basis upon which to consider who's contributing how much to which bills.
If the OP is so concerned with his wife not pulling her weight, he shouldn't have married someone who earns so much less in the first place. But that was apparently not a concern when he dated and married her.
So, take note, OP. This info will prove helpful in your next attempt to spin a yarn.
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