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They can be after those things as well but the end game is also sex and intimacy with testosterone to feed.
That's why men go on dates with women they find physically attractive.
Men want to find a good woman to be with, but until they find that person they still want sex. That's the point i'm making that it can be a lot easier to use hookers here and there, while single, than play the dating game which is exhausting for men while often looking for a needle in a haystack.
Women on the other hand can get sex at the drop of a hat so it's nothing to them.
The dating game is "exhausting" for men because they make it that way. If you are looking for a real, quality relationship, don't play games. If you spend your time trying to impress your date with cars, money, fancy dinners, etc. then you are the one feeding the game. Men who use "stuff" as a fallback do it because they don't have anything else going for them.
Keep dates simple and genuine. A woman who is only interested in material things, what you can buy her or do for her will not go, so then you know she wasn't the one. Congratulations, you just reduced your haystack.
You also need to keep in mind that most women (no, not all) do not have any interest in men who have frequented prostitutes. So by frequenting prostitutes, you are helping to reduce our haystack. Thanks for that!
Edited to add: Men need to understand that the dating game is also exhausting for women trying to weed out the men who are only interested in sex and those who are actually interested in a relationship.
Last edited by MoonBeam33; 10-17-2015 at 06:11 PM..
Men need to understand that the dating game is also exhausting for women trying to weed out the men who are only interested in sex and those who are actually interested in a relationship.
So, why not get the sex part over and done with early on so that it is no longer an issue?
I am a 27 y/o guy and for a long while i have been paying for the companionship of prostitutes. I used to enjoy it at first, but now i just don't feel fulfilled and in fact, i am starting to feel miserable about it all.
I think my problem is that i am an insecure person and always feel i have to be some kind of way or have certain things to impress people, especially women. i am not perfect, i am probably average/verging on above average looking facially and i have a modest job with a charity organisation that isn't highly paid, but it's a job i enjoy and i always continue to improve and want to do well in life.
However, my dating life could be improved for sure. I would much rather chase fulfilling relations with girls, rather than constantly spend money on hookers. I have wasted a fair amount of my savings on escorts thinking it would satisfy me and my needs, but end up just feeling like s*** the next day because it isn't fulfilling for me.
I would like to meet women, but i've also become a bit of a recluse and i have distanced myself from the majority of my close friends, which i really regret now. I no longer have a social life, in fact i rarely go out for nights out or to socialise, only occasionally when my closest friend isn't busy.
Anyway, what would you suggest?
Don't you worry about diseases? I won't address the moral aspect, because morality is individual. I have never paid to play. I don't think that I could live with myself. But that's just me. I have a few friends who have and they act like it's no big deal. I would just feel gross/ wrong. Maybe it's your conscious talking to you. Perhaps you aren't as ok about it as you think. Find a nice girl (who doesn't prostitute) and stop wasting your money in such a way.
Of course I never thought getting laid was hard for anyone if they try hard enough.
Don't you worry about diseases? I won't address the moral aspect, because morality is individual. I have never paid to play. I don't think that I could live with myself. But that's just me. I have a few friends who have and they act like it's no big deal. I would just feel gross/ wrong. Maybe it's your conscious talking to you. Perhaps you aren't as ok about it as you think. Find a nice girl (who doesn't prostitute) and stop wasting your money in such a way.
Of course I never thought getting laid was hard for anyone if they try hard enough.
If you think he could find a nice girl don't you think he would've done it by now?
If you think he could find a nice girl don't you think he would've done it by now?
Doesn't seem like he's trying that hard. All his money and time are going to prostitutes. So yeah, with a little more effort, I think that he could meet a nice girl. Call me optimistic. Call me naïve. He has as good a shot as anyone else. It takes effort, timing and a bit of luck.
So, why not get the sex part over and done with early on so that it is no longer an issue?
Because lots of people - including me - don't think of sex as something to "get over and done with." It's something that's shared between two people in a relationship. I have never felt sex was something to "get out of the way," rather it's something deep and intimate shared between two people who have decided to make some kind of commitment to each other.
Connected sex is far better than unconnected, random, or one night stand sex and, quite frankly, I feel sorry for people who've never experienced it and think of sex as just another body function to get fulfilled.
Doesn't seem like he's trying that hard. All his money and time are going to prostitutes. So yeah, with a little more effort, I think that he could meet a nice girl. Call me optimistic. Call me naïve. He has as good a shot as anyone else. It takes effort, timing and a bit of luck.
I guess you are one of those people that believe there's someone for everyone. Some people do not.
I guess you are one of those people that believe there's someone for everyone. Some people do not.
Actually I don't believe that at all. Just looking at this place there are a lot of jaded individuals. If you think it wont' happen, then it won't happen. If you don't try, it won't happen. People expect something or someone to put a beautiful women/ man at their doorstep because they are such a catch. Life doesn't work like that. It's not going to happen because you've complained enough or feel like it's your time/ you deserve it. You have to try even when you don't want to.
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