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Look, people can be defeatist, as seen on this thread, or they can be positive and pro-active. It's a choice.
Maybe people have been trying to keep their heads up for years but after years of getting nowhere they're tired and worn down. I'm not sure why people keep trying to push this point when the OP doesn't even know what he wants. Is someone going to die from not having a relationship?
There's what should be and what is. People should treat everyone with respect, decency and kindness. Not everyone does. Should doesn't mean anything. Some people are shy some people are not. Shaming doesn't help but make people feel worse.
I think people on here think shy people are weak. I'm shy but I'll easily tell to f**k off if they get on my bad side. Shaming makes the shamer look bad and I could care less what anyone thinks of me. If someone isn't hurting you, mind your own business. If someone doesn't want to talk to you consider the fact that maybe they just don't like you and move on. Lot's of entitled people on here who get butthurt when someone doesn't want to talk to them.
Maybe people have been trying to keep their heads up for years but after years of getting nowhere they're tired and worn down. I'm not sure why people keep trying to push this point when the OP doesn't even know what he wants. Is someone going to die from not having a relationship.
According to people on here you have to approach every woman you see. Not everyone wants to be buddy buddy with everyone. They need to get over it. Not everyone is gonna like you.
Maybe people have been trying to keep their heads up for years but after years of getting nowhere they're tired and worn down. I'm not sure why people keep trying to push this point when the OP doesn't even know what he wants. Is someone going to die from not having a relationship?
Well obviously I'm not responding to the OP! I already responded to him, and he is long gone.
I'm responding to the male posters on here who are acting as though being shy is such an extreme handicap that it will prevent them from ever having a romantic relationship. And I'm telling them it's a self-fulfilling, defeatist attitude.
People get tired and worn down, yes. I have gone through periods of that myself after several failed relationships. But if you give up, if you choose to act as if there is no hope, then that is exactly what will happen. Giving up is a choice, saying "I can't talk to women" is a choice, deciding you will be alone forever is a choice.
Well obviously I'm not responding to the OP! I already responded to him, and he is long gone.
I'm responding to the male posters on here who are acting as though being shy is such an extreme handicap that it will prevent them from ever having a romantic relationship. And I'm telling them it's a self-fulfilling, defeatist attitude.
People get tired and worn down, yes. I have gone through periods of that myself after several failed relationships. But if you give up, if you choose to act as if there is no hope, then that is exactly what will happen. Giving up is a choice, saying "I can't talk to women" is a choice, deciding you will be alone forever is a choice.
And being alone is a fate worse than death on this forum apparently.
Say all you want.... call these men loosers... call them socially stunted... call them whatever.
You are still ignoring the fact that they do exist and in their mind... struggling.
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They do exist no matter how much you want to marginalize.
I think that's all that some of these posters are saying..... no amount of repetitious point making is going to change it.
Fortunately, no one is forced to date them or even be friends with them. In turn they can do whatever they want... including paying for sex.
O.M.G. You posters are hopeless. I'm not f-ing marginalizing anyone. I also don't get on a public message board, complain about how hard it is to meet women, ignore truth and good advice, refuse to be proactive, and then continue complain about how hard it is to meet women.
But you do complain.... and spent a good amount of time here doing so.
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