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Well the obvious advice is stop doing it. If it is not fulfilling you and is making you miserable, it is time to stop.
However just stopping something that is a large part of your life is not easy. It has to be replaced with something - or the void will refill itself. Usually with the thing you took out in the first place (back to the hookers).
So clearly the first step forward is to work on your social life. And the first step to that is to work out what makes you you. What you enjoy doing (aside from sex that is clearly) and what new things you want to do.
Then you need to indulge in those things. Personally AND socially. There are few hobbies that do not have a social potential to them. Learn a language - join a group that practice it together. Like dancing - dance classes especially ones that leave the class room and retire to an actual dance floor afterwards (salsa is good for this). Like playing music - jam sessions. The list goes on - very few hobbies do not have a social option.
Finding relationships and dates and so on - that will sort itself out. When you throw yourself into the social aspect of your life - friendships and relationships come along the way. They are events along your path in life - rather than destinations for them.
And if giving up the hookers is a hard thing for you - consider also having part of your income diverted into an account where you can not touch it for 12 or 24 months while you sort this out. This will hamper your ability to indulge your temptations during the period you are over coming them. And above all avoid boredom and idle hands and sitting around the house. Because it is in those moments that you reach for the escort phone list - or the drinker reaches for the bottle - or the gambler checks the odds.
Really appreciate you putting in the effort to post that momentus. Very helpful advice, so thank you.
I actually have so many interests, ranging from art, dancing, singing, acting to playing sports, music, films and more.
I agree that i need to give escorting up as it's just some fun for 1 hour or 90 mins and for the rest of the day i'm happy, but the next day is a come down and i think to myself "was that worth it? i could have saved money"
Prostitutes will never ever be a substitute for a real relationship. It is a fantasy. It is adult entertainment.
It is a vice... and with many vices can be addictive and displace other things... like relationships.
My only advice to you, start living in the real world and work on establishing a real relationship.
Easier said than done when you have a non-existent social life lol
You need a social life in order to build relationships. It is work.. yes.. no one said it isn't. However, it is worth the effort.
Part of the reason why you visit prostitutes is because they never reject you... so it feels safe. Trust me. I know for a fact that prostitutes don't always think highly of their customers... its all about money. They at times do reject the men they have sex with but they just don't know it.
Its likely because the escorts are more attractive then what he could pull in normally. Any guy can get a woman but the escorts likely look a lot better.
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Originally Posted by timberline742
This. Stop being a recluse. Stop wasting your money on hookers (I can't believe dudes do this).
This might sound really crazy but ask the hooker if she knows anyone. They are human beings with lives too. The women they set you up with may not look as good as them though .....
I have known people that have married their hooker. Sometimes you have to think outside the box.
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