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I was chatting with a guy from a dating site a while back and he seemed really nice. We hit it off almost immediately, I liked his sense of humor and we had a lot of things in common. After chatting every day for about 10 days he said that I have a really pretty face. I was very flattered by his compliment and thanked him, then I asked what he thought of the rest of me and he said honestly I'm a bit too chubby and that it's a shame as I deserve to have a better body and that he would be even more attracted to me if I did. I got upset and his reaction was to tell me that losing weight isn't that hard, and that he's done it himself. I told him that is not the way to compliment a woman, and I stopped chatting to him. He sent me a message a couple of days later saying don't take it so bad, it was just an observation, and that I did ask for his opinion. But still, that doesn't change the fact that he is very superficial and judgmental. I was very upset and I still am. Every time I look in the mirror I'm reminded of his rude comment to me. I'm sick of these insensitive jerks.
I know that has to sting...... but you asked him a question, and he gave you an honest answer.
I think politeness would dictate that he just tell you that you are not his type and leave it there, but there you go.
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Well better you get this out the way now than later. If you are ashamed that much of your body then start working out more, nothing to stop you from doing that!
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Ladies, don't ask for the truth if you can't handle it. Guys, if a woman asks for the truth on her looks, don't go into specifics, just say ok. Hell, lie if you have to. We can't win this one anyway.
Last edited by The Dissenter; 09-11-2015 at 06:34 AM..
After chatting every day for about 10 days he said that I have a really pretty face. I was very flattered by his compliment and thanked him, then I asked what he thought of the rest of me and he said honestly I'm a bit too chubby and that it's a shame as I deserve to have a better body and that he would be even more attracted to me if I did.
When you fish for compliments ...
Honestly, it sounds like he said it as nicely as he could.
Insensitive jerks are out there - it has nothing to do dating sites. However, you asked him to evaluate you based on photos. Never ask a question if you're not prepared for the answer. That goes for women AND men.
BTW I think his response was a bit strange. "You deserve to have a better body." What the hell?
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