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Tonight I bumped into an ex girlfriend of mine of over 7 years ago. We caught up a bit about what's going on in each others lives, we go to the same 4 year university and are in our last year as well. Following seeing her at her job (she's a waitress, joining the national guard), I shot her a message on facebook (since we are friends on facebook) I shot her a message saying, "Sorry for popping in out of the blue, I just recently heard you worked there and was stopping by to get food and figured I'd ask if you worked there still. I thought it would be nice to see each other for a minute and say hi. I also didn't know if you'd be happy to see me or dread seeing me." She responded with, "Nah no big deal. It was nice seeing you again." I felt pretty good about that, but to the rest of the people of city-data, has anyone ever ran into an ex and have them tell you it was nice to see you again? Furthermore, does that mean anything at all in terms of feelings still being there or were they just trying to be polite?
I think you should take her words at face value. She didn't dread seeing you, she's not mad, etc. You would get a lot better idea of her feelings from how she acted, not what she wrote. Smiling, talking to you warmly, asking you questions, touching you, hugging you goodbye--these are indicative of more than politeness.
It's happened to me a couple times, I've always just smiled and said hello and made a little small talk for a minute or two then moved on. Since I've moves around a lot though, hasn't really happened much at all. As far as your case, I wouldn't read much at all into what she said. She was just being polite, nothing more nothing less. I wouldn't give it another thought if I were you.
Tonight I bumped into an ex girlfriend of mine of over 7 years ago. We caught up a bit about what's going on in each others lives, we go to the same 4 year university and are in our last year as well. Following seeing her at her job (she's a waitress, joining the national guard), I shot her a message on facebook (since we are friends on facebook) I shot her a message saying, "Sorry for popping in out of the blue, I just recently heard you worked there and was stopping by to get food and figured I'd ask if you worked there still. I thought it would be nice to see each other for a minute and say hi. I also didn't know if you'd be happy to see me or dread seeing me." She responded with, "Nah no big deal. It was nice seeing you again." I felt pretty good about that, but to the rest of the people of city-data, has anyone ever ran into an ex and have them tell you it was nice to see you again? Furthermore, does that mean anything at all in terms of feelings still being there or were they just trying to be polite?
It means nothing. Nothing. Please repeat this to yourself several times.
I would imagine a large percentage of people who have an ex have at some point run into them randomly and one of them said, "Nice seeing you again." That's about the least one can say and be polite while still hinting that nothing more will ever happen.
But you didn't run into her randomly, you didn't "bump into" her, you went to where you had a good idea she would be in order to see her. That's not the same thing at all.
She was 100% just trying to be polite and hopefully disengage from further interactions, and if that long, overly explanatory message was really what you sent, she was probably also a bit concerned that after going to the slightly stalkerish trouble of hunting her down at her work, you might be trying to get back with her.
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