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What's ironic is that you proceeded to comment on my post without reading and internalizing the very first line.
Yeah she said hookup sex makes her feel like a piece of meat. That's her opinion and she is insinuating it is making her feel used. Course, it can just be unfortunate choice of words.
MikeLee81 has a point about the strange behaviour.
When a man is more interested in what kind of sex he can get out of a woman on the first date (the guy in question asked her if she wanted to try buttseks) he is treating her like a warm body, a piece of meat because he does not care anything about her as a person, only what he can do with her body.
And no, sex is not always an equal exchange because, again, there are people who are only concerned with what they can do with/to the body of the other person. There's nothing equal about that. It has nothing to do with women enjoying or not enjoying sex. It means that both parties are not on the same page about the date, the relationship, the hook-up, whatever.
You spoke my mind. A woman telling the man before they meet she's only interested in his body parts and how they can please her is equally offputting. Many men don't like being sexually attacked like a piece of meat
... for women. An average woman can get a date with a very desirable man. But average guys have little chance with very attractive women.
The man you described in the OP may have been trying to "game" you into thinking he was hot stuff by acting like he was the kind of guy who could get away with talking like that, and still get a date.
I really like women who have sex on the first date.
I have had sex plenty of times on the first date.
The length of the relationship was not determined by it.
With that said, I have never demanded, pushed, suggested or even mildly hinted at the idea that sex on the first date was ever, mandated, required or in any way necessary. No person from either gender should put up with such a rude ultimatum from either gender.
Now, if I don't get even somewhat sexual in like 4 dates, and you can judge me (and probably will) but, I assume there are incompatible cultural values, or that I'm not attractive to that person.
I have been talking to this guy that I met last week. He gave me his number and I decided to text him to see what's up. However, we are meeting up today. I asked him what we are doing yesterday and he just said we will figure it out.
Then he suggested we have a little fun when we meet. He started asking me what things I like doing. I didn't know what he was talking about so I asked him to be more specific. He then said sex and started explaining in graphic detail what he wants to do in bed. He kept asking sexual questions and if I want to try Mod cut.
I told him that I want to meet and hangout for bit to see then see where the night leads us. He said ,sure its up to me. I am just not sure at this point, I was open to get to know each other first and it leads to sex then great, not just hook up I don't want to feel like piece of meat
should I cancel
Yes you should cancel but I think he is the type that won't let up and you will end up going anyway.
He is very dangerous. He is a user and he will an be physically abusive but definitely emotionally and likely both. He will not leave you alone. Even now it might be too late.
I have been talking to this guy that I met last week. He gave me his number and I decided to text him to see what's up. However, we are meeting up today. I asked him what we are doing yesterday and he just said we will figure it out.
Then he suggested we have a little fun when we meet. He started asking me what things I like doing. I didn't know what he was talking about so I asked him to be more specific. He then said sex and started explaining in graphic detail what he wants to do in bed. He kept asking sexual questions and if I want to try Mod cut.
I told him that I want to meet and hangout for bit to see then see where the night leads us. He said ,sure its up to me. I am just not sure at this point, I was open to get to know each other first and it leads to sex then great, not just hook up I don't want to feel like piece of meat
should I cancel
Because you are not comfortable with just hooking up, than yeah. Cancel. Yours and his expectations aren't the same here. Why have sex with a guy who's making you feel obligated? Don't worry about hurting his feelings. He doesn't seem to care about yours.
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I don't want to feel like piece of meat