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I disagree that you are a good woman. Any man of decent caliber will see you for what you are. A mother who drags her already damaged kids through one rotten relationship after another. They are probably even more scared than you about what the next one will be like.
Give up on "finding a man" until your kids are grown up and self sufficient. Clearly they can't handle what you are putting them through presently. This is not my advice for every single mom, only the ones who thrive on drama and put their physical and romantic needs ahead of their children's emotional ones.
yeah, having your kids see you with all these men you go through and all that drama will scar them for life.
At least have the decency to not bring anybody home until you are dating them for at least a year. Don't have them sleep at your house, on your couch or wherever. You are screwing with your childrens ability to become stable individuals with your behavior.
Give it at least a few years - you JUST threw that worthless piece of man out that was sleeping on your couch or bed whenever it was convenient for him. DON'T LET ALL THESE MEN INTO YOUR HOUSE!
None of your male "friends" will be mad at you if you tell them they can't crash on your couch or in your vagina when they break up with their current partner. They will find somebody else who helps them or god forbid - rent their own place!
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to follow up on this: I used to quote an article quite a bit directed towards "nice guys" who aren't getting the women they want and message was this: You have to be more than just "the bare minimum" when it comes to desirability. The catch is that people view "the bare minimum" as lower than it really is.
There are guys that are employed, respectful to women, don't have a ridiculous amount of debt, and are getting turned down left and right. Why? Because there's 100 other guys that have all that and play the guitar. Or whatever.
The same goes for women. You're hot, have a job and your own place? Congratulations, there's thousands of others that do too, and they f*** like porn stars. Or they cook a wicked casserole. Or whatever.
Basically, what most are saying, OP (correct me if I'm wrong)....is that any smart 'good man' doesnt consider your drama filled life appealing, thus your dating woes.
Public assistance for two babies from different deadbeat daddy's...in which one of them wants to kill you? Are you serious?
Basically, what most are saying, OP (correct me if I'm wrong)....is that any smart 'good man' doesnt consider your drama filled life appealing, thus your dating woes.
Public assistance for two babies from different deadbeat daddy's...in which one of them wants to kill you? Are you serious?
Well then I guess we ARE winning! When you make statements that proclaim the existence of a "war on women", you can't have it both ways. Either you're winning and you shouldn't be bitching, or you're losing, in which case, carry on.
This all presupposes that there is such a thing, obviously....which plenty will find laughable.
A phrase referring to the hidden power of motherhood cannot be compared to man>women rates of violence.
I didn't have time for no man when my kids were little.
I mean, I really didn't have any time. I worked 40 hours a week, parented and recovered the rest.
I simply cannot understand women who are so desperate for a man they expose their kids to all manner of losers.
Their father already took care of that position.
There are women out there who just aren't going to be without a man no matter what. My cousin has four kids, an ex husband, currently in the process of divorcing her second husband, but she already has a new boyfriend. She said she wasn't looking for one but he approached her while she was out running errands and she just couldn't resist. Meanwhile her house is a mess and her kids are out of control, but she has time for a man.
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