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Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by Sweet Like Sugar
It's not an uncommon way of thinking.
It isn't common, certainly (I can't recall ever hear of anyone speaking of it) and it certainly would prevent someone from being a "good" person. Good people aren't bigoted/racist/prejudiced.
In reality, my town has a population of 2700 and 98% are white. Odds are in my favor on the race preference anyway.
This is a big part of your problem right here. A town that size is not going to have a large selection to chose from. And the "good" ones you are looking for probably married their HS or college sweethearts.
It isn't common, certainly (I can't recall ever hear of anyone speaking of it) and it certainly would prevent someone from being a "good" person. Good people aren't bigoted/racist/prejudiced.
Just because they didn't explicitly say it to you doesn't mean they don't feel that way. Lots of ethnic groups prefer to stick to their own and wouldn't be too interested in having a relationship with someone who hasn't done so.
Why? Because it won't work. Any half decent guy (who happens to be white) who sees a person saying "only white need apply" is going to high tail it out of there.
I mean, don't get me wrong, her putting her preferences out there is great for the guys. They'd know to keep away. But it wouldn't work to her advantage.
I tend to agree.
I'm a white guy and if I saw an ad where the stated preference was white, that's fine, we all have our preferences.
But to see it written "only whites need to apply" just has a nasty subversive tone to it and I would wonder if she's some kind of stromfront white supremacist type.....
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by Sweet Like Sugar
Just because they didn't explicitly say it to you doesn't mean they don't feel that way. Lots of ethnic groups prefer to stick to their own and wouldn't be too interested in having a relationship with someone who hasn't done so.
Said or not, these are NOT "good" people. They're racist/bigoted/prejudiced people.
It isn't common, certainly (I can't recall ever hear of anyone speaking of it) and it certainly would prevent someone from being a "good" person. Good people aren't bigoted/racist/prejudiced.
Dating within race is extremely common. I might date someone of another race but they would have to fall under my country boy preference to even have me notice them. And with the area being 98% white...I should be able to stick to my race.
This is a big part of your problem right here. A town that size is not going to have a large selection to chose from. And the "good" ones you are looking for probably married their HS or college sweethearts.
I will date in surrounding towns also. The race statistics are about the same in surrounding towns also. Many guys went away to college, military and never returned. I have never left my hometown. I have met men from other states, had them move here, but those relationships did not end well either.
Said or not, these are NOT "good" people. They're racist/bigoted/prejudiced people.
Wanting to only date within your group and wanting to date others who share that sentiment does not make someone a bad or bigoted person, in my opinion.
Dating within ones race is very common, no one is arguing that per se.
I don't think that there is anything inherently "evil" in preferring to stay within ones own racial group, it's when people disparage other groups of people as being inferior to date that's when we have a problem.
There is a poster here that has openly stated her preference of black men, and she's black. No one is really getting on her about that.
That same courtesy should apply if a white person prefers to date white people.
I think sometimes we've gone off of the PC deep end at times.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by LowonLuck
Dating within race is extremely common. I might date someone of another race but they would have to fall under my country boy preference to even have me notice them. And with the area being 98% white...I should be able to stick to my race.
And we weren't discussing that.
We were discussing so called "good" people who wouldn't date someone who has dated someone of another race.
In other words, a person calling someone a "good" person who is a blatant bigot.
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Originally Posted by Chowhound
Dating within ones race is very common, no one is arguing that per se.
I don't think that there is anything inherently "evil" in preferring to stay within ones own racial group, it's when people disparage other groups of people as being inferior to date that's when we have a problem.
There is a poster here that has openly stated her preference of black men, and she's black. No one is really getting on her about that.
That same courtesy should apply if a white person prefers to date white people.
I think sometimes we've gone off of the PC deep end at times.
I don't think we're too PC, but that said, if I refused to date a white chick because she has dated a black guy (which really what we were talking about), there is no way on this green earth that I could be called a "good" guy. I would be a disgusting bigot.
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