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I just see it as an issue of wanting to be with someone who shares your values and beliefs. It doesn't mean you have hatred/intolerance towards other groups just because you prefer not to date outside of your own.
You are being (hopefully) deliberately obtuse. There is a difference between wanting to date white men and refusing to date someone who has dated someone from another race. Timberline was referencing the latter. I believe he said that several times.
I just see it as an issue of wanting to be with someone who shares your values and beliefs. It doesn't mean you have hatred/intolerance towards other groups just because you prefer not to date outside of your own.
You guys are talking about different things.
He's saying if a guy found out the woman he's currently dating/pursing used to date a man that was Mexican or Black in the past, he'll quit seeing her since he thinks that interracial dating is morally incorrect.
He may be a good person in most areas, but he's definitely a bigot.
And since we weren't talking about that, it's rather irrelevant.
We're not talking about dating outside our race (of course we're one species, Homo sapiens sapiens, there isn't enough genetic differentiation in our species to have geographic races), we're talking about dating someone who has dated outside "your own". That is absolutely intolerance of other groups. It can only mean you view that other person has having sullied the person you're interested in dating. It is bigotry at its core.
No, it means that you want someone who shares your values. If it's ok to not want to date outside of your race, why is it not ok to only want to date others who share that sentiment?
We were discussing so called "good" people who wouldn't date someone who has dated someone of another race.
In other words, a person calling someone a "good" person who is a blatant bigot.
I don't think we're too PC, but that said, if I refused to date a white chick because she has dated a black guy (which really what we were talking about), there is no way on this green earth that I could be called a "good" guy. I would be a disgusting bigot.
I get what you're saying, I'm not sure if others are.
I would definitely feel uneasy about dating a white woman and if I had dated black women in the past and she "kicked me to the curb" because of that, yeah, I find that off putting as that is being ignorant.
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No, it means that you want someone who shares your values. If it's ok to not want to date outside of your race, why is it not ok to only want to date others who share that sentiment?
Doe what you will. If you reject someone because they have dated outside their race, that is acting in a bigoted manner. You're saying that person was devalued by dating outside their race.
There is no way that person can be considered "good". They're a bigot and racist.
The values you're trying to share here aren't positive ones or good ones.
No, it means that you want someone who shares your values. If it's ok to not want to date outside of your race, why is it not ok to only want to date others who share that sentiment?
So if we just drop all pretenses here and just lay it out.
You're a black woman from what I can remember.
If you started to date a black dude and you found out he was with white women in the past.
You are being (hopefully) deliberately obtuse. There is a difference between wanting to date white men and refusing to date someone who has dated someone from another race. Timberline was referencing the latter. I believe he said that several times.
I don't see anything wrong with refusing to date someone who doesn't share a belief that's important to you. People do that all the time.
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I get what you're saying, I'm not sure if others are.
I would definitely feel uneasy about dating a white woman and if I had dated black women in the past and she "kicked me to the curb" because of that, yeah, I find that off putting as that is being ignorant.
Not really any other way to spin it.
Nope. There isn't.
SLS, has the right to her opinion, I just can't consider any guy who thinks like this as a "good" guy. They're bigots.
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I doubt it. There are many white men out there who would love to hear that her vagina only accepts whites.
A racist is someone who feels that someone of a particular race are inferior solely because of said race. No other reason. How can someone who makes a snap judgment about an entire group of people be considered a person of good character? I could not date someone who was racist. I would not consider a racist relative a good person.
Seriously, someone straight out said that they were racist and you continued to date her??? She's a nice person otherwise...
every single one of you on this board does relatively "bad" things for your own reasons or reasons you would justify as doing so rightfully.
Does that automatically make you "good" people despite your personal flaws?
By definition alone, no.
To bring it full circle to the thread topic and why the OP seems to be having trouble finding "good" people....perhaps she needs to define what "good" actually means for her and if her lifestyle and character is actually indicative of what she wants to attract.
So if we just drop all pretenses here and just lay it out.
You're a black woman from what I can remember.
If you started to date a black dude and you found out he was with white women in the past.
Would you drop him????
That's the real question here.
I would assume that he had already been with white women or wanted to be, so it's a moot point.
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