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Okay to start off Im a 22 year old college student man
I have a great group of friends pretty much I have enough friends to hang out with on the weekends and since then
The only thing I seek at this point is a romantic woman
I gotten back in the dating scene I have tried to create something like convert a friendship with a woman into something more but I usually give it 2 days or 2 weeks last woman I gave her 2 months and she friendzone me and I was disappointed but we never spoke after that.
Im not mean or anything but im one of those point that get directly to the point after that moment
I don't need friends and don't need no more I have enough and apparently most woman at my college campus have the same excuse
- Have a boyfriend ( well not an excuse but yea well no dating that girl)
- Always busy
- Busy on weekends
- Not interested
- Weekend ( Busy ) Next weekend ( Also busy)
So these people I cut off and just keep asking a whole bunch of woman out but very few I have met that I actually dated I have only dated like 4 woman at my campus but i feel that very little and im surprised to see how very little people are interested in dating.
I actually have a decent body and am a sweetheart and a good well around personality
So any tips you can provide for me?
Look I serious am tired of JUST A FRIENDSHIP I want something more than that and yea I move on really FAST and would talk to multiple woman if thats the case but thats all I seek something more than just a friendship
Not selfish at all. In fact, it's the smartest thing you could do for everybody's sake.
If you want more than friendship, be upfront and honest about that with every woman in whom you have a romantic interest. No, that doesn't mean you have to try to sleep with her right after meeting her, but it does mean you imply your interactions with her are "dates" not "hangouts." I think two weeks is a decent amount of time to see if she shows romantic interest in you. If she doesn't return your feelings, wish her all the best and move on.
Trying to be friends with someone in the hope that they will one day date you is messy and can be depressing and demoralizing. You're on the right track.
When I was younger, I didn't tell girls who friendzoned me my feelings. This was a mistake.
But as I become wiser, doing this is actually the smarter route. It saves everybody time and avoids you getting hurt by wasting your money/affection trying to get a girl who doesn't see you romantically.
Cut that ***** off completely if she friendzones you and move on to the next one.
No wrong done. If you like a girl and she doesn't like you back, there is no point in being friends. It's a waste of time and you will only get hurt.
If you are being friendzoned, it is your own fault. I have a lot of co-workers and acquaintances, many of them I have no interest in but I still flirt with them, say things to create sexual tension and compliment them on their hair, dresses, etc.
You are definitely doing something wrong, probably being the stereotypical "nice guy". If you don't change yourself, you will always finish last.
Usually when people say they want to be "just friends," they mean they want to stay friendly. No hard feelings. They're not actually hoping to go with you to the new Star Wars movie or dive into bottomless appetizers with you at Friday's. If you have a girl on your hands who wants to text you all day or call you and complain about her life, sure, keep your distance. Nothing wrong with that. But if you're one of those guys who won't say, "Hey, what's up" as you pass in the hall or pleasantly acknowledge her existence if you see her somewhere, then you're probably a douche.
You can only create sexual tension with guys at work until they find someone and that special someone starts doing things for them so that there is nothing to be tense about.
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Originally Posted by IowaConservative
If you are being friendzoned, it is your own fault. I have a lot of co-workers and acquaintances, many of them I have no interest in but I still flirt with them, say things to create sexual tension and compliment them on their hair, dresses, etc.
You are definitely doing something wrong, probably being the stereotypical "nice guy". If you don't change yourself, you will always finish last.
Usually when people say they want to be "just friends," they mean they want to stay friendly. No hard feelings. They're not actually hoping to go with you to the new Star Wars movie or dive into bottomless appetizers with you at Friday's. If you have a girl on your hands who wants to text you all day or call you and complain about her life, sure, keep your distance. Nothing wrong with that. But if you're one of those guys who won't say, "Hey, what's up" as you pass in the hall or pleasantly acknowledge her existence if you see her somewhere, then you're probably a douche.
If you are being friendzoned, it is your own fault. I have a lot of co-workers and acquaintances, many of them I have no interest in but I still flirt with them, say things to create sexual tension and compliment them on their hair, dresses, etc.
You are definitely doing something wrong, probably being the stereotypical "nice guy". If you don't change yourself, you will always finish last.
FWIW, you shouldn't be doing these things with co-workers. And if someone were doing this to me, especially a co-worker, you definitely wouldn't be friendzoned, you would be relegated to the "CreeperZone".
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(Also, it's spelled "douche.")
