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Anyone experience having to separate themselves from their family because they didn't approve of your S/O? My guy and I are from different cultures and although he hasn't told me, I know his family isn't thrilled about him choosing me to settle down with. He doesn't talk much about his family and I know it's because they really don't approve of our relationship. It kind of saddens me that he has to make a choice between me and his family and I don't get why people being from different backgrounds is still an issue. You should want your child/family to be happy, that should be what's most important. He also has colleagues who question why he chose me and it's like why do you care? How does who he chooses to share his life with effect you? Well at least he still chose me and he didn't let what others think cloud his own judgment.
My Chinese mother disapproved my husband day one, solely because of his ethnicity.
I didn't care, why? Because I don't live with my mother. I'm financially independent. I don't depend on her or anyone for money. My mom can't control who I married.
I left my mother house when I was 18, now I'm 30. So it been more than a decade that I don't live with her. Clearly she can't control who I married.
Does it hurt that my mom disown me after I got married? Does it hurt that she always say mean things about me and my marriage? Heck yeah, it hurts.. But it hurts, because she is the woman that gave birth to me.
I have zero family support, I have zero family to turn to. I do feel isolated sometimes.. But I don't need a mother who abusive, and still have a close-minded attitude.
Since young age, I learn to be independent. So I can break free from my abusive mother.. I'm happy to have my independent and freedom, break free from my controlling mother.
Me and my husband have a huge cultural difference between us too.. Trust me, we have a HUGE cultural difference between us. Statistically, we are the smallest percentage out of all the "Interracial marriage' couples out there. We're the Asian and Black couple.
I'm Chinese, my husband is Black. His ancestor come from Sierra Leone, West Africa
It works, because we both put in the effort to make it work.
What important is none of us want to give up on each others. IF one of us give up, the relationship would broke apart already.
Since day one, my husband know about my mother disapproved him.. He knows about all the hardship we going to have to face, but he never give up on us.. He doesn't want to give up on us, so why should I give up?
When 2 adults want to be together, nothing can stop them. What matter is 2 people love each others enough to make the sacrifice. And both continue throughout to put in the effort to be together, and work out all differences.
Hope it all work out for you OP, good luck to you. Just out of curiously, which culture is you and your SO from?
Well, it's not like this is a new problem and there's likely nothing you can do to change it. People have been making up reasons to hate for eons and usually it's for racial or religious reasons. Pretty sad, but it is the reality.
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