Does marriage make you boring or do boring people marry? (long-term, single)

[orangeapple]

You can go ahead and question the premise or chalk this up to snark (but please do spare me the "but I'm married and totally not boring!")....

When I think of the coolest, most interesting people I know, none are partnered up nor have any prospect in signt.

Most of the marrieds I know, including the very happy ones, are incredibly dull and ordinary, however inoffensively "pleasant".

So which came first - the marriage or the boring?

Are unique, fascinating, passionate types possibly not cut out for long-term coupling?

[The Dissenter]

I think marriage makes you boring.

[erjunkee]

Originally Posted by orangeapple

You can go ahead and question the premise or chalk this up to snark (but please do spare me the "but I'm married and totally not boring!")....

When I think of the coolest, most interesting people I know, none are partnered up nor have any prospect in signt.

Most of the marrieds I know, including the very happy ones, are incredibly dull and ordinary, however inoffensively "pleasant".

So which came first - the marriage or the boring?

Are unique, fascinating, passionate types possibly not cut out for long-term coupling?

I think marriage is the cause.

Once a relationship stabilizes and follows the normal progression of marriage, having children, etc, then things (at least from my observation) pretty much calm down due to a change in priorities, time limitations, fatigue, etc. Many fall into a rut, and well, monotony ensues.

I often wonder if the only married couples who have exciting lives are those without kids.. those who either don't work (because they live off of family/personal wealth), or just travel incessantly for pleasure or work...

The married folks can elaborate better .

[TJenkins602]

Originally Posted by orangeapple

You can go ahead and question the premise or chalk this up to snark (but please do spare me the "but I'm married and totally not boring!")....

When I think of the coolest, most interesting people I know, none are partnered up nor have any prospect in signt.

Most of the marrieds I know, including the very happy ones, are incredibly dull and ordinary, however inoffensively "pleasant".

So which came first - the marriage or the boring?

Are unique, fascinating, passionate types possibly not cut out for long-term coupling?

That's really a loaded question. For one thing, "boring" people do marry. Another thing is people get out of the "excitement" phase at some point, too. Then there is the subjectiveness of the concept. What may be "boring" to one might actually be "exciting" to another.

[rego00123]

Never had a particularly boring marriage, but I'm not going to go skydiving TM just becuase I can. I have others to worry about that depend on me to live a good life (namely children)

Marriage added a layer of responsibility not present in my life as a single man, not boredom.

"Boring" changes drastically depending on what perspective It is being viewed from.

[CSD610]

Originally Posted by orangeapple

You can go ahead and question the premise or chalk this up to snark (but please do spare me the "but I'm married and totally not boring!")....

When I think of the coolest, most interesting people I know, none are partnered up nor have any prospect in signt.

Most of the marrieds I know, including the very happy ones, are incredibly dull and ordinary, however inoffensively "pleasant".

So which came first - the marriage or the boring?

Are unique, fascinating, passionate types possibly not cut out for long-term coupling?

Marriage makes you Married.

You do not have to be anything but boring if you are boring.

[Chowhound]

Not really sure what metric one can use to judge what is boring as it's pretty subjective.

I think was we get older in general we have a tendency to become complacent about things, not sure if that counts as boring or not.

I don't think marriage makes one more dull, as I'm sure plenty of people who are boring or dull were that way prior to becoming married.

The whole marriage with the 2.5 kids and white picket fence thing in general can certainly appear "tame" from the outside looking in.....

I mean how exciting can picking up little Johnny from soccer practice be???

[cindersslipper]

Most people are as dull as ditchwater, "cool" or not.

"interesting" is in the eye of the beholder...Your fascinating individual may be my Terry Tryhard.

[TabulaRasa]

If you're boring, you're boring. You may or may not marry/be married.

[Ginge McFantaPants]

It has the potential to cramp your style, for sure. But "boring" is a rather subjective idea.