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I knew a married couple years ago, and the wife used to smack her husband around and everybody in our street would laugh and call him henpecked. But then one day he had enough and gave her a huge slap, and all of a sudden he became a monster in the eyes of everybody who found out, which is, well, everybody in our street.
Why is domestic violence (or violence in general) against women by men considered worse than violence against men by women?
Well, traditionally (and factually) men as a whole are stronger than women so can do more damage. Of course the equation changes when you bring weapons into the picture - but the old tv shows usually show it as comedy - slapping or at worst using a frying pan - so it's all just for laughs. Of course traditionally, a man is supposed to have control of his woman and using force is okay.
If you are getting "beat on" by your woman then obviously you DON"T have control of your woman so that reflects badly on you. The only way to mitigate this is to assume that whatever she's doing to you is so minor as to not even matter - so as a male you're encouraged to minimize any damage done otherwise as a guy you obviously "can't take it" or are a whining wimp which is doubly bad.
This is only the general cultural tradition - it's NOT right to use physical means to overpower or intimidate - whether male-male, male-female, female-male, or female-female. As society progresses further into the concepts of human rights and away from "might makes right" this will improve - these things tend to happen over decades and generations though.
"protected" and kept as second-class citizens who are weak and ineffectual.
Needing protection doesn't equate to weakness or being a second class citizen. That doesn't even make sense. Women do need protection by men. Women have a certain amount of strength but men are stronger, so when there's danger, it's men who protect women.
There's a lengthy history of wife/girlfriend-abuse and male dominance in relationships worldwide due to repression of women in general. The laws have thus been specifically set up to protect women (in just the last 60 or so years I might add).
Today's sexual dynamics are different.. women are empowered to do anything a man can do. Thus you now see more women who are dominant in relationships. Additionally, some women are a combination of both twisted and smart, they know the laws favor them in physical confrontations and take advantage.
As a man, I find that avoiding drama is my best bet. If a woman isn't on the same Ahimsa-frequency I am, I try to help but hold them at a distance. I haven't always been that way and brought into the fold a woman who ended up being quite toxic. I thought I could change her but I've learned that change can only be initiated if the person wants to change. She enjoyed the drama (the screaming, hurling insults, and throwing fists/kicks, etc) when she didn't get her way. That isn't my style, so I left. Life is now so much more peaceful and loving. Men and Women would do well to seek balanced people and drama-less relationships (and parents would do well to raise their children likewise).
This double standard stretches throughout our culture rich vs poor minority vs majority male vs female young vs old---
When we are judged by what we do instead of who does it
things will get better
Free pass fervor must end
I knew a married couple years ago, and the wife used to smack her husband around and everybody in our street would laugh and call him henpecked. But then one day he had enough and gave her a huge slap, and all of a sudden he became a monster in the eyes of everybody who found out, which is, well, everybody in our street.
Why is domestic violence (or violence in general) against women by men considered worse than violence against men by women?
I know it's awful Why was he still with her? If a woman hit me I'd end it on the spot no second chance
It's just that historically men have always abused women more than the other way around, it's almost akin to the way non-whites get much more of a pass if they act in a racist way, cause again, historically speaking whites have been more racist... well, I should say more racists it's just that blacks and other minorities have taken more abuse/violence at the hands of white people.
I also think that men don't want to admit that they are getting slapped around by a woman, so it doesn't get reported as much.
To answer your question about the double standard... IDK... there just is....
Nobody should feel compelled to stay in a relationship where they are physically assaulted.
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