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I already know a christian man would have no idea what to do with me, so no need to even look in that area. I have a wild, free spirit, live it up personality. I think men like the idea of me but rarely know what to do with me. I am fun to take around their friends, can bring fun and excitement to the bar, pool and any where I go. And it is not like I do not settle down some, but I am more Go,Go,Go then most people.
My newest guy has pursued me for a year. He truly does love me and has had a crush on me since high school. I am terrified of getting attached to him relationship wise and then have him roll out also. He does have his own house on a farn, a few miles from mine and he will never move from his house. So no concerns of him moving in.
If the guys don't know what to do with you, it is because you are picking the wrong guys. A guy that likes the same things as you, is going to want to do those things with you.
You say you have a live it up personality, and you are a wild free spirit. And you like to go, go go. Is it possible you are too wild for these guys and you like to go, go go too much? Just a thought. Maybe I should take you up on meeting you for a drink to see just what the heck is wrong with you. Lol.
Depends on the age of the men in question, you are pretty much at the age where the sexual power dynamic is starting to shift (unless you are going out with significantly younger men). Men who hit 40's are less driven by sex.
If a man is still single at your age then he likely have to put up with a lot of malarkey and is probably not just going to put a ring on your finger to have sex or because you had sex.
the ideal is to marry young and stay married but we had the sexual revolution and womens rights which have been hell for young men so if they find themselves single at 40 most of them are less than willing to be completely accommodating.
Also this day and time a lot of women are short sighted when they are young and will use their sexual power to make their husbands life hell, not realizing that when they get older and kids are gone he may just up and divorce her ( I have seen this happen in a church I used to go to). He went and bought some high ticket mid life crisis toys and that was that. Its quite likely that she did not make his youth a joy so why should he stick around later on?
I just read this article and the author suggests that having premarital sex diminishes my power to find a husband. At 37, I am open to researching my options.
Unmet sexual longing is a powerful motivator for men and women alike. Many of our parents, and especially grandparents, had short courtships thanks to this natural force. Men who are getting their sexual needs met casually have fewer reasons to sign up for all the responsibilities of marriage.
Sex should flow from a godly relationship. It was designed to sweeten a life of commitment. When couples partake of it prematurely, it tends to sicken, much like eating dessert before you’ve had dinner. Many Christians who’ve had premarital sex eventually marry; but this does little to alleviate their consciences and often results in disaster.
So is this really an issue? And would men even accept that a woman wants to wait until marriage? I see the point about buying the cow.
If I have to manipulate the man into marrying me........ why in gawd's name would I want to have a man under those circumstances?!!!?
I don't need to withhold sex to keep my "power", it's a relationship that you want to have equal partners... not something to wrestle power over.
It sounds like a recipe for disaster. I hate that mentality.
It's something married people do not single people out on the town in a drunken orgy.
What the article said was Why...Why would a guy commit himself in a long term relationship if everything is already out on the table??
People have sex, play house and when things get rough they can leave. No strings, no commitment...nothing.
Basically stop opening your legs and guys will have to straighten up and treat you like a lady instead of a piece of meat just to satisfy their lustful desires.
Basically stop opening your legs and guys will have to straighten up and treat you like a lady instead of a piece of meat just to satisfy their lustful desires.
LOL. I can have sex and not be treated as a piece of meat.
I am treated like a lady, because I AM a lady - one who had sex before marriage with both my husbands.
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Basically stop opening your legs and guys will have to straighten up and treat you like a lady instead of a piece of meat just to satisfy their lustful desires.
Or maybe learn to pick guys who don't treat women like pieces of meat in the first place.
It's not an issue for me. It is an issue for my mom.
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