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When did it become wrong for a woman to wait for the man she wants that has the qualities she desires? Are women supposed to date a guy just because HE wants it? Men have the right to look for the woman that they choose to pursue, and women have the right to wait for the right man.
I won't dispute any of the above, but it is still easier for woman to pick up a new guy than the other way round.
I had a female friend who was adamant that a man cheating was much worse than a woman cheating. I asked her how she came to that conclusion? she looked me square in the eyes and said "because unlike me I know he has had to work for it!"
So? Just because one person says so doesn't make it gospel. If it's so easy for a woman to pick up a new guy, why is it mostly the guys who get into a relationship right after a breakup, while it takes women a very long time to find a new guy? I suppose it depends on what type of crowd you run with; maybe your observations have been opposite to mine. But it seems to me much easier for guys to find a new gf. Or maybe it depends on the individual.
So crappy as those 20 job offerings were.. You were happy to have gotten them? Why, if you never intended on taking one of them to begin with.... What were your reasons for rejecting them? I am guessing that you feel "entitled" to your
vision of the " perfect" job. You scanned the offers and didn't "count" the ones you deemed as inadequate right off the bat. Just like you... I don't count getting hit on by non desirables ( according to my desires) as viable choices.
At least you had the luxury of seeing up front what the job had to offer, but we are taking a chance at a pig in a poke.
You bet your sweet butt I'm entitled to having a man of the preferences I want. "Perfect" will never exist, I am reasonable and know this. I also am reasonable and know I won't be able to keep the man I want with those preferences if I don't have anything to offer.
Men are entitled to having a partner with the traits they want too. It's a practice of self-respect and self-love for all humans. I wouldn't "settle." I would rather die alone. I don't NEED anyone to complete me.
Relationships are not a need, they are a want, and I don't want to make myself miserable or another man miserable who I found had distasteful traits I can't live with.
Well, relationships are a need if you don't want the human race to go the way of the dodo bird.
It's helpful to remember that this thread was created by a guy who's terrified of talking to women (even when they approach him), and who judges what women's dating experience is like by his sister''s example. She got married in her mid-20's after getting a lot of attention from guys, so the OP thinks this is what all women's lives are like. Since he can't bring himself to talk to women, he has no idea what their lives are really like. In that kind of a vacuum, his stereotypes and imagination are free to run wild.
The OP is far too bull headed to take any advice. I doubt if he is describing his situation accurately. Come on, with access to $80,000 cars he can't find an acceptable date?
Would you elaborate on the types of women that no one pursues?
You are one of the more level-headed female posters on here, and I along with many others are grateful for it.
Women don't pursue, so they do less work (easier).
That's what I got out of the 41 pages.
It's better to re-phrase what you stated as this instead:
"Women in society-at-large appear to do that much less pursuing of men than vice versa, so it at least appears that they have to do less work (hence, it appears 'easier', by-and-large, for them to be involved in the world of dating than for men."
Whether one agrees with the above statement or else not wholly so or else not at all, this point is what this overall thread seems to be coalescing around.
so - women suck therefore men have to settle - but men are awesome therefore women can hold out for the right guy? Ok.
lol...
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if you don't want the human race to go the way of the dodo bird.
