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Whenever I try to initiate sex with my wife, most of the time she says that she's not in the mood. This is very troubling for me because I can only think of 3 possibilities as to what's going on, which are :
1. She's cheating
2. She's thinking of leaving
3. She has some kind of sexual dysfunction
I very much doubt that she's cheating. I know enough about her schedule and comings and goings to know that it would be very hard.
I have no reason to think that she would want to leave. She generally seems happy and we've always been open about things. If there was a problem she would have brought it up long ago and it would have been dealt with by now.
So the only thing that makes any sense to me is that she has a sexual dysfunction.
I can't understand how a woman would not be in the mood to have sex with her own husband. There's nothing about sex that is unappealing. It's all positive. You get an orgasm, you get exercise, and you get to bond. It's win win. That's why I don't take her reason at face value. It's obviously either an excuse for something else or it's due to a sexual dysfunction that makes it hard for her to enjoy sex. I believe that most women who say that they're not in the mood come under one of the 3 categories above.
I don't think it could be anything to do with deliberately withholding sex, although my friends have suggested this as a strong possibility. I don't really think women do that.
But this still leaves me with a problem that I can't figure out how to solve, and whenever I bring it up she says everything is fine.
Whenever I try to initiate sex with my wife, most of the time she says that she's not in the mood. This is very troubling for me because I can only think of 3 possibilities as to what's going on, which are :
1. She's cheating
2. She's thinking of leaving
3. She has some kind of sexual dysfunction
I very much doubt that she's cheating. I know enough about her schedule and comings and goings to know that it would be very hard.
I have no reason to think that she would want to leave. She generally seems happy and we've always been open about things. If there was a problem she would have brought it up long ago and it would have been dealt with by now.
So the only thing that makes any sense to me is that she has a sexual dysfunction.
I can't understand how a woman would not be in the mood to have sex with her own husband. There's nothing about sex that is unappealing. It's all positive. You get an orgasm, you get exercise, and you get to bond. It's win win. That's why I don't take her reason at face value. It's obviously either an excuse for something else or it's due to a sexual dysfunction that makes it hard for her to enjoy sex. I believe that most women who say that they're not in the mood come under one of the 3 categories above.
I don't think it could be anything to do with deliberately withholding sex, although my friends have suggested this as a strong possibility. I don't really think women do that.
But this still leaves me with a problem that I can't figure out how to solve, and whenever I bring it up she says everything is fine.
Are you sure that she enjoys the sex? Maybe she doesn't or maybe she's distracted by other things so sex isn't a priority. Talk to her about it and don't make assumptions.
If she says everything is fine? Why doesn't she want to have sex? Surely, you had a serious conversation with her about this? Probably not, youre still left guessing.
How old are you two? Age may play a factor. Also, you do know there are other reasons she may not be in the mood besides cheating. Maybe she's not feeling well, maybe you're lousy in the sack, maybe she's tired, maybe she's depressed, maybe she has a low sex drive. Who knows? Try talking with her.
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Whenever I try to initiate sex with my wife, most of the time she says that she's not in the mood. This is very troubling for me because I can only think of 3 possibilities as to what's going on, which are :
1. She's cheating
2. She's thinking of leaving
3. She has some kind of sexual dysfunction
Really? These are the only three? Puhleease.
Maybe she isn't feeling loved?
Not valued/attractive to you or in general?
Maybe she isn't enjoying the sex?
There are three more... and that is just the start of the list.
Whenever I try to initiate sex with my wife, most of the time she says that she's not in the mood. This is very troubling for me because I can only think of 3 possibilities as to what's going on, which are :
1. She's cheating
2. She's thinking of leaving
3. She has some kind of sexual dysfunction
I very much doubt that she's cheating. I know enough about her schedule and comings and goings to know that it would be very hard.
I have no reason to think that she would want to leave. She generally seems happy and we've always been open about things. If there was a problem she would have brought it up long ago and it would have been dealt with by now.
So the only thing that makes any sense to me is that she has a sexual dysfunction.
I can't understand how a woman would not be in the mood to have sex with her own husband. There's nothing about sex that is unappealing. It's all positive. You get an orgasm, you get exercise, and you get to bond. It's win win. That's why I don't take her reason at face value. It's obviously either an excuse for something else or it's due to a sexual dysfunction that makes it hard for her to enjoy sex. I believe that most women who say that they're not in the mood come under one of the 3 categories above.
I don't think it could be anything to do with deliberately withholding sex, although my friends have suggested this as a strong possibility. I don't really think women do that.
But this still leaves me with a problem that I can't figure out how to solve, and whenever I bring it up she says everything is fine.
Whenever I try to initiate sex with my wife, most of the time she says that she's not in the mood. This is very troubling for me because I can only think of 3 possibilities as to what's going on, which are :
1. She's cheating
2. She's thinking of leaving
3. She has some kind of sexual dysfunction
I very much doubt that she's cheating. I know enough about her schedule and comings and goings to know that it would be very hard.
I have no reason to think that she would want to leave. She generally seems happy and we've always been open about things. If there was a problem she would have brought it up long ago and it would have been dealt with by now.
So the only thing that makes any sense to me is that she has a sexual dysfunction.
I can't understand how a woman would not be in the mood to have sex with her own husband. There's nothing about sex that is unappealing. It's all positive. You get an orgasm, you get exercise, and you get to bond. It's win win. That's why I don't take her reason at face value. It's obviously either an excuse for something else or it's due to a sexual dysfunction that makes it hard for her to enjoy sex. I believe that most women who say that they're not in the mood come under one of the 3 categories above.
I don't think it could be anything to do with deliberately withholding sex, although my friends have suggested this as a strong possibility. I don't really think women do that.
But this still leaves me with a problem that I can't figure out how to solve, and whenever I bring it up she says everything is fine.
I also don't think she could be withholding sex on purpose. It's just not something women do.
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