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So, my boyfriend has started his new job now (he works Monday-Friday with the weekends off and I am usually scheduled to work during the weekends) so our schedules don't really work very well together and he will probably be spending the majority of his weekends alone.
I've just found out that his Bulgarian parents will be visiting us from December 23-January 2nd.
His parents speak absolutely no English. I don't really feel like being forced into spending New Year and Christmas with them, as pleasant as they are. We are living in London, UK and I just don't see how they will enjoy themselves here. It is incredibly expensive for them and my boyfriend is looking to put them in a tiny room (with about a foot of floor space around the bed in a strangers house because they can't afford anything else and we don't have space for them to stay with us - we are renting a small bedroom). They have never even left Bulgaria and are coming all the way here for Christmas and New year.
This will be my boyfriends first holiday and it would of being nice if we could have spent it together, however his parents will be here for all of it.
I just feel so irritated by this! My boyfriend didn't even tell me.
I don't know it just seems like a recipe for a disaster and bad time, the plans don't even make any sense. How will they cook for example? What will we do on Christmas day, New years eve? The list just goes on and on...
Last edited by palmtrees099; 09-25-2015 at 02:31 AM..
This will be my boyfriends first holiday and it would have been nice if we could have spent it together, however his parents will be here for all of it.
I think you have two separate issues. You want to spend more time with your bf. I recommend you find a better job with weekday hours. You have 4 months.
2nd. Your boyfriend didn't even tell you he was inviting your parents for a month. And you can't talk to him about it. You have a SERIOUS communication problem.
Make your own plans for your holidays, go spend them with your parents.
Sometimes couples have to do stuff like this for the sake of their parents. Sometimes you have to be creative and accept reality to make a relationshiip work.
TERRIFIC idea there--go to your own folks' home for the holidays, for the entire duration of his family's stay. Tell him this is your plan, immediately. He will hit the roof--how could you leave him and his family like that? What will they think? Who will be there to entertain them when he is bored and annoyed with them after a week?
Tell him you're going, and when he balks ask him how he would've reacted had you just sprung on him that your folks were coming for a couple of weeks.
You're a doormat, miss. All you're going to do is come here and complain during their stay.
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How long ago has he last seen his parents?
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