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What's shallow about being honest about the big role attractiveness plays? It does play a big role whether we like it or not, especially when one meets someone else for the first time.
Because when you focus on these "truths" too much (and there IS some truth to the hot/rich/etc being part of initial attraction for many people), you FORGET the qualities that actually count for long lasting love.
Mutual respect. Friendship. Being so much more than what you are on the outside. Being more interested in giving than what you get out of it.
Do you think for a second the people whining here have really reached for the peak of being a good person? No way. They are too busy harping on baldness and fatness and wallets and how everything is unfair. Who the heck would want to be with them!!?
No. They think giving more than you get makes you a chump. Me me me me me. It's not surprising.
Because when you focus on these "truths" too much (and there IS some truth to the hot/rich/etc being part of initial attraction for many people), you FORGET the qualities that actually count for long lasting love.
Mutual respect. Friendship. Being so much more than what you are on the outside. Being more interested in giving than what you get out of it.
Do you think for a second the people whining here have really reached for the peak of being a good person? No way. They are too busy harping on baldness and fatness and wallets and how everything is unfair. Who the heck would want to be with them!!?
No. They think giving more than you get makes you a chump. Me me me me me. It's not surprising.
Well, I think the problem for many people, especially men, is that they can't imagine being with a woman that is wonderful in terms of character etc., but who for whatever reason they are not physically attracted to.
We live in a world where good looks are purchased, and are desired far above a good heart. What people don't realize is that oftentimes a good heart is rewarded with NATURAL good looks and good health.
Look out for number one long enough and you'll end your life (even with all the paid for help) looking like, and acting like, a toad.
Really loving others and self is truly the fountain of youth!
There is a difference between unhealthy love of self and healthy love of self. If you don't know the difference, then go into therapy and find out!
P.S. You will never find and receive love if you don't have REAL love to give!
**Married 25+years to an all natural and very beautiful woman on the INSIDE and out.
I still think a major reason for all those singles is that they simply don't get to know people. Especially nice people don't want others to consider them importunate. In English the term "to hit on someone" seems pretty frequent, and although I am no native speaker it seems to imply something negative. So nice people often won't even start a conversation with another person in order to prevent making that impression.
P.S. You will never find and receive love if you don't have REAL love to give!
One time, my ex (who is a very sweet person) said, "Why are you giving so and so a present? They never give us a present."
It shocked me to hear this from her, bc to her close friends/family/me, she was literally "the shirt off her back" kinda person.
But that's the whole point. You can't keep score or you're doing it for all the wrong reasons. Most people keep score, build resentment, and naturally everything falls apart.
We live in a world where good looks are purchased, and are desired far above a good heart. What people don't realize is that oftentimes a good heart is rewarded with NATURAL good looks and good health.
Look out for number one long enough and you'll end your life (even with all the paid for help) looking like, and acting like, a toad.
Really loving others and self is truly the fountain of youth!
There is a difference between unhealthy love of self and healthy love of self. If you don't know the difference, then go into therapy and find out!
P.S. You will never find and receive love if you don't have REAL love to give!
**Married 25+years to an all natural and very beautiful woman on the INSIDE and out.
The good thing is that while young almost all people look good or at least decent. It is simply in nature's interest. And once in a relationship, one gets to know and love the person as such, so even if and when physical attraction fades away, that is no problem.
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