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Old 09-25-2015, 11:39 PM
 
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Sorry if this is inappropriate, if it is, just delete it. I was wondering what the womens sex life is like for the men. I usually try talking to my fiance about it but nothing really happens.

Anyways I was wondering what you women do for you men. Do you usually make the approach often? is sex once a week too little for you. Also, spice things up such as lingerie and wait for him when he gets home, or just take the initiative (example would be he is on the couch and you just jump on him and take control)

wondering if this happens once in a while, or it is not normal for women to take control and usually expect men to do it.

Reason I ask is, I talk to my fiance wondering why she never makes a move and its always me that ask for sex and sex is usually once a week, or something. She is not very aggressive when ,making first moves, or even just taking control. So, was just wondering what other women are like in comparison. And yeah, sorry to be blunt I do want to compare vs her if this is just something that is normal.
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Old 09-26-2015, 01:41 AM
 
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delete.

Last edited by Shysister; 09-26-2015 at 02:14 AM..
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Old 09-26-2015, 01:44 AM
 
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Sorry if this is inappropriate, if it is, just delete it. I was wondering what the womens sex life is like for the men. I usually try talking to my fiance about it but nothing really happens.

Anyways I was wondering what you women do for you men. Do you usually make the approach often? is sex once a week too little for you. Also, spice things up such as lingerie and wait for him when he gets home, or just take the initiative (example would be he is on the couch and you just jump on him and take control)

wondering if this happens once in a while, or it is not normal for women to take control and usually expect men to do it.

Reason I ask is, I talk to my fiance wondering why she never makes a move and its always me that ask for sex and sex is usually once a week, or something. She is not very aggressive when ,making first moves, or even just taking control. So, was just wondering what other women are like in comparison. And yeah, sorry to be blunt I do want to compare vs her if this is just something that is normal.

This is none of your concern and you should not be comparing your girlfriend to other women.
If you have an issue with her talk to her, if you cannot get it worked out with her, perhaps you are with the wrong woman.
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Old 09-26-2015, 02:16 AM
 
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This is none of your concern and you should not be comparing your girlfriend to other women.
If you have an issue with her talk to her, if you cannot get it worked out with her, perhaps you are with the wrong woman.
You're right! I deleted my comment as whatever women say here is not really going to change the way OPs fiancé views and feels about sex.

OP you can either try to work things out with your fiancé or breakup with her and find someone you're sexually compatible with since it doesn't appear that you guys are.
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Old 09-26-2015, 02:51 AM
 
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Maybe she isn't that into you or is exhausted from getting it on the side. She probably is just looking to get the ring on her finger and have a big expensive ass wedding that you will be in debt still paying for 5 to 10 years down the road when you both are divorced. Sorry boy... it's straight down hill from here.
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Old 09-26-2015, 03:05 AM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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It's perhaps because she is the supplier and she wants to raise the price to get your attention, by way of telling you that you don't show enough appreciation to her in other ways....or else she just isn't into sex.
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Old 09-26-2015, 06:40 AM
 
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I am guessing she is not satisfied with the sex she is getting so would rather do without.

Do you know very much about female orgasm/anatomy?
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Old 09-26-2015, 06:47 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Every person has their own drive and own comfort level. And some people like to initiate and others don't.

I don't think that means they don't enjoy sex.

I also don't think you can talk them in or out of it.
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Old 09-26-2015, 06:49 AM
 
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Theres no rules. Whats right for one person is different for another. Its a totally individual choice that you need to work out with your fiance.

There is no normal. There is just what each person wants and feels comfortable with. Stop trying to put her in some imaginary "normal".
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Old 09-26-2015, 07:57 AM
 
Location: TheNorthEast
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Is your fiancee really young? i used to be shy and wasn't too comfortable with my body when I was in my early 20s, which translated into holding back and obsessive about stupid things (what if i am not skinny enough, what if i don't move well enough, etc.).

Things have changed though
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