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Exactly. And if a man brings this topic up around here its seen with negativity. Now, a woman can complain she does all house chores and her husband just smiles and you bet the replies from women won't be nothing comparable to what it is said here about reciprocating. Double-standards, that's all. There are other cultures where women do reciprocate though and I am not just talking about a shy smile. To each, their own.
It comes down to choice, doesn't it?
If the parties agreed that household chores would be shared, that's a heck of a lot different than if there was an agreement that one would do all of it.
I cook for my partner, every meal. It was our agreement when we got into the relationship. Yup, all he does is smile and say thanks- which is enough for me, because I know that he appreciates it. This is vastly different than say, me doing all the cooking without such an agreement in place. With that being said, my response to someone complaining about cooking or cleaning would be no different than my response here-- you have free choice to do or not to do whatever the heck you want in a relationship, just find a partner who you are compatible with. Gender irrelevant.
Yes. There are couples that are fine with things revolving around the woman having the man do all the chivalrous things mentioned in this thread , among other things, while she simply gives him a smile and there will be other couples from other cultures where the woman does more than a smile to show appreciation. I agree, like you said, it comes down to choice.
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If the parties agreed that household chores would be shared, that's a heck of a lot different than if there was an agreement that one would do all of it
Wouldn’t that make it easier for everybody to have some sort of agreement? But when it comes to these things I am not sure if there are really any sorts of agreements. You assume your partner will be nice to you and take action on showing appreciation other than doing nothing. In the past there have been threads of women complaining that they do all house chores while their husband doesn’t. I find it interesting how female posters don’t respond to them the same way they respond to men. You would think the same female posters who make fun of men in this thread to tell those female posters things like “Stop complaining, be a lady, and just do all house chores…you must hate men…you may have a vagina but you don’t know how to be a woman…you must be a wacko *****…a man reciprocates everything you do with a shy smile and bonus points so shut up…” But no, you don’t see that.
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How is doing all the household chores comparable to holding a door open for someone? Haha!
That if a man complains that he does everything (dating) he gets flamed while a woman who complains she does everything (married) she gets sympathy. Its not like you would tell her the same things you tell me who complain.
How is doing all the household chores comparable to holding a door open for someone? Haha!
I think it's along the lines of chore "equality" where cooking every day, housekeeping, grocery shopping, and laundry "equal" mowing the lawn once a week, putting up the Christmas lights, and changing the oil in the car.
I think it's along the lines of chore "equality" where cooking every day, housekeeping, grocery shopping, and laundry "equal" mowing the lawn once a week, putting up the Christmas lights, and changing the oil in the car.
I think it's along the lines of chore "equality" where cooking every day, housekeeping, grocery shopping, and laundry "equal" mowing the lawn once a week, putting up the Christmas lights, and changing the oil in the car.
Just wanted to point out the attitudes of female posters when a man talks or questions about doing everything compared to a woman complaining about doing everything.
Next time a female poster comes to complain about doing all house chores while her guy doesn't we'll see how female posters reply which I can assure you is different as seen already in past threads. As for now, enjoy having men do all chivalrous things for you while you give him bonus points.
Wouldn’t that make it easier for everybody to have some sort of agreement? But when it comes to these things I am not sure if there are really any sorts of agreements.
My partner and I have one. But, as it seems with most things around here, we are the exception that makes the rule, I guess.
My partner and I have one. But, as it seems with most things around here, we are the exception that makes the rule, I guess.
I can understand how being the exception is. When I was dating in the USA I would be an exception on how things worked with me and the girl I would date. A bit different to how women are with their guy in American culture but we didn’t mind. We were both happy and still are doing things a bit different to what is normally seen there.
My partner and I have one. But, as it seems with most things around here, we are the exception that makes the rule, I guess.
We don't have an agreement - we just do what works for us. For instance, he takes the trash up because we have a really steep driveway and it's much easier for him than for me. There have been times when I've almost not been able to get the trash all the way up. We didn't have to talk about it - that's just the way it came about. When things aren't working, we talk about it. It works for us!
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