Boyfriend just got closure with ex (feelings, relations, reason, Hawaii)

[isla2003]

My boyfriend told me that he just recently got closure from his ex because the person she was just with broke up with her for the same reason she broke up him. We've been together 2.5 years. Is this a red flag?

[usayit]

I'd say there is concern there... not necessarily a red flag.

It is not a good thing to derive validation from another's life's trials.

That was 2.5 years ago... Its interesting that he actually gives two thoughts about it while being with you.

[snugglegirl05]

Originally Posted by usayit

I'd say there is concern there... not necessarily a red flag.

It is not a good thing to derive validation from another's life's trials.

That was 2.5 years ago... Its interesting that he actually gives two thoughts about it while being with you.

OP:

I would talk to your boyfriend regarding what usayit posted.

I would directly ask him why he needed closure from his ex while in a relationship with you.

[UnaWilde]

Originally Posted by snugglegirl05

OP:

I would talk to your boyfriend regarding what usayit posted.

I would directly ask him why he needed closure from his ex while in a relationship with you.

Why does he even care? Talk to him, he is your boyfriend right?

[hawaiiancoconut]

Your bf still has feelings for the ex.

[wonderwall]

Could be a pride thing...

[snugglegirl05]

Originally Posted by hawaiiancoconut

Your bf still has feelings for the ex.

Which is not good considering he is in a relationship with the OP.

Time for the OP to have a discussion with him.

[funymann]

Originally Posted by isla2003

My boyfriend told me that he just recently got closure from his ex because the person she was just with broke up with her for the same reason she broke up him. We've been together 2.5 years. Is this a red flag?

He's just saying she got what she dished out and you want to know if it's a red flag??

You should have said, "Too bad for her cause you're with me. What goes around comes around I guess."

[D217]

That's actually not at all what closure is. Lol, sorry.

[ellie]

Originally Posted by isla2003

My boyfriend told me that he just recently got closure from his ex because the person she was just with broke up with her for the same reason she broke up him. We've been together 2.5 years. Is this a red flag?

It's entirely normal for someone to have feelings or an interest in what happens to an ex. Odds are he has stronger, more positive feelings for you.

Stop making a big deal out of nothing.