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Does it still linger?
How would you take care of it?
I just live with it. I saw a urologist earlier this year about it. She said we could try to reverse it, but that some men just never fully recover. I'll randomly feel pressure on one side. If it happens to follow sexual activity it can be pretty intense. I didn't want to get it reversed though.
I got the procedure because my wife had a really bad pregnancy with our youngest. After that we decided we were done having kids and it was worth it to get snipped. It's been almost a year and a half and like I said, there is still some random pain/pressure build up on one side. But most of the time it's manageable.
FWIW a very small number of men will suffer lingering discomfort following a vasectomy. Apparently I'm one of the lucky few.
I went with my husband when he had his done. He's very, very averse to medical stuff in general, so I was extremely nervous for him. I was in the waiting room, anxiously awaiting his arrival post-vasectomy. A nurse came out and said to another nurse, "The poor guy is throwing up. He's really having a hard time back there." Naturally I assumed it was my husband and was so worried that he was horking up his guts and full of regret. My husband came out 5 minutes later, all doped up, grinning and loud.
The bummer is... a year later I had to have an emergency hysterectomy. Poor guy could have skipped the whole thing!
Sorry to hear you were one of the unlucky ones. That is terrible. I really hope it improves with time.
The type of woman that the OP is seeking would find ALL of this posturing extremely unattractive and therein lies his problem. He is NOT deemed attractive to the types of women that he is attracted to. And for us attraction is far beyond just looks.
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Originally Posted by jotucker99
Backstory: I'm 32, Male, Black, and just about 98% of the women I come across say I'm attractive physically, mentally, financially and personality wise. I'm also GOOD in bed. I have an MBA, good career, my finances are great, I stay in the Suburbs, I workout and have a 6 pack as well. I'm solid all the way around.
I have been dating consistently for the last 7 years, woman after woman on a quest to find someone of quality to build something long term with. Long story short, I found no one even CLOSE to it. There's been consistently FOUR types of women I have ran across:
- Type 1: Her interest at the time is great, good finances, no kids, smart, but she's OVERWEIGHT to the point of when she takes her clothes off, I get turned off. She looks better in clothes than outside of them.
- Type 2: This chick here looks good in clothes and outside, her interest at the time is great, but her issue is that she's BROKE as hell with extreme financial problems. I'm talking about so extreme to where I would literally need to become her "daddy" and she become my dependent.
- Type 3: This chick here usually looks good in clothes and outside, no kids, smart, finances good, but she has mixed signals like hell. I mean literally, she likes me Monday, hates me Tuesday, so so likes me Wednesday, likes me again on Thursday, hates me again on Friday.
- Type 4: The same as Type 3, but add ON TOP of that, she is a gold-digger and consistently seeks to try to get money out of me.
For 7 years, this has been my results. I meet women everywhere, from stores, to clubs, to networking events, to online. Same.....damn.....results.
I've had enough. I'm fed up. All I'm looking for is a balanced woman that has good interest, good finances, no kids, smart, AND she looks good. You don't have to be a damn fitness model, but you also DON'T have to be 350lbs either.
So I've scheduled the Vasectomy on October 30th. I will continue to date and screw around with these chicks, but I can't invest anything into them for the long term to build anything.
So I opted out of Marriage alongside this deal.
I'm making this thread for you guys to see my situation and see if others are going through the SAME thing I'm going through? I have no issues posting my pictures for you guys on here so you can see what I look like.
I am 38 and always thought of myself as a gen xer is that correct?...oh well I cant give you any other advice except, hang in there and be patient. You seriously should go at least Bi though, believe me you would score big time...it's a shame really.
I'm thinking maybe the OP should try dating a woman instead of a chick.
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