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I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 3 months.
We both love each so much, but there's one thing she has a problem with and she can't let it go.
When I was young, I had a very awkward relationship with another girl and thinking back, she was really just a friend, and wasn't that important. However, by mistake, I considered getting her a gift that cost $1800- although I didn't actually get it for her- and I actually spent $400 dollars on her gift and another $100 to ship it. Obviously, all of this was very stupid on my part.
Now, my current girlfriend can't get over the fact that I ever considered spending that much money on that kind of person and it bothers her that I spent $500 on that girl from the past.
I've gotten my current girlfriend so much better stuff and she agrees that I have done everything for her materially and immaterially, but because she has a problem with this one fact, she's going to break up with me.
She hates guys who had girls in the past and she needs to feel special. She feels that everything I did for her, I'd do for that other girl too- although I've never done anything like that. She's always gotten mad about this kind of stuff with her other boyfriends in the past as well.
What should I do in this situation? I told her that it was a mistake and I was being very stupid since I was young. She didn't feel that it was an acceptable answer and will break up with me unless I can convince her and make her feel that she's the only one. For me, it's a very difficult situation because I tried my best for her, but she's convinced that I'd do that for everyone- although I've never done it for others.
You can't convince her. No one could. You can't change her. Either she accepts you for who you are (which doesnt look like is going to happen) or you have to move on. She will make your life totally miserable. You cant make her happy.
Why did you blurt out about spending $500 on your previous crush?
Assure your new girl you love her very much. everyone has a history, it's impossible not to have someone in the past. From what you say, the new girl is impossible to please. things will only go downhill from here.
In the future keep quiet about what you did for previous girlfriends. Or it can be used against you
I've gotten my current girlfriend so much better stuff and she agrees that I have done everything for her materially and immaterially, but because she has a problem with this one fact, she's going to break up with me.
She hates guys who had girls in the past and she needs to feel special.
Ugh.
Guess what ... she's not the only one for you.
Let her break up with you, since she apparently has already threatened that. In fact, beat her to the punch.
She obviously is immature and insecure and all those other traits that will make you miserable. You will NEVER satisfy a person who is so blatant about their self-absorption. And you should not waste any of your time trying.
Love is supposed to be reciprocal, and it's does not have a list of demands that starts with, "Be sure I am the ONLY girl you've ever paid attention to."
Why did you blurt out about spending $500 on your previous crush?
Assure your new girl you love her very much. everyone has a history, it's impossible not to have someone in the past. From what you say, the new girl is impossible to please. things will only go downhill from here.
In the future keep quiet about what you did for previous girlfriends. Or it can be used against you
Yea, it was my bad. I'm just the type of guy who likes to reveal everything about himself and not hide. I definitely learned a lesson. She even said multiple times that my only mistake was I said too much.
I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 3 months.
We both love each so much, but there's one thing she has a problem with and she can't let it go.
When I was young, I had a very awkward relationship with another girl and thinking back, she was really just a friend, and wasn't that important. However, by mistake, I considered getting her a gift that cost $1800- although I didn't actually get it for her- and I actually spent $400 dollars on her gift and another $100 to ship it. Obviously, all of this was very stupid on my part.
Now, my current girlfriend can't get over the fact that I ever considered spending that much money on that kind of person and it bothers her that I spent $500 on that girl from the past.
I've gotten my current girlfriend so much better stuff and she agrees that I have done everything for her materially and immaterially, but because she has a problem with this one fact, she's going to break up with me. She hates guys who had girls in the past and she needs to feel special.She feels that everything I did for her, I'd do for that other girl too- although I've never done anything like that. She's always gotten mad about this kind of stuff with her other boyfriends in the past as well.
What should I do in this situation? I told her that it was a mistake and I was being very stupid since I was young. She didn't feel that it was an acceptable answer and will break up with me unless I can convince her and make her feel that she's the only one. For me, it's a very difficult situation because I tried my best for her, but she's convinced that I'd do that for everyone- although I've never done it for others.
She is really stupid. Your past is none of her business and you are not obligated to spend $$$ on her. Again - she is really stupid.
I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 3 months.
We both love each so much, but there's one thing she has a problem with and she can't let it go.
When I was young, I had a very awkward relationship with another girl and thinking back, she was really just a friend, and wasn't that important. However, by mistake, I considered getting her a gift that cost $1800- although I didn't actually get it for her- and I actually spent $400 dollars on her gift and another $100 to ship it. Obviously, all of this was very stupid on my part.
Now, my current girlfriend can't get over the fact that I ever considered spending that much money on that kind of person and it bothers her that I spent $500 on that girl from the past.
I've gotten my current girlfriend so much better stuff and she agrees that I have done everything for her materially and immaterially, but because she has a problem with this one fact, she's going to break up with me.
She hates guys who had girls in the past and she needs to feel special. She feels that everything I did for her, I'd do for that other girl too- although I've never done anything like that. She's always gotten mad about this kind of stuff with her other boyfriends in the past as well.
What should I do in this situation? I told her that it was a mistake and I was being very stupid since I was young. She didn't feel that it was an acceptable answer and will break up with me unless I can convince her and make her feel that she's the only one. For me, it's a very difficult situation because I tried my best for her, but she's convinced that I'd do that for everyone- although I've never done it for others.
How old are the two of you?
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