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It gets childish at a certain point when you're in your mid thirties and playing around on video games all the time and don't have any type of ambition or plan for your life.
I myself have not met a single man who matches what you describe. Perhaps you simply have a particularly low threshold for how you define "Obsession".
Also who says they have no "ambition or plan for their life" exactly? By what standard are you judging this? Your own? Why is the plans and ambitions YOU have for YOUR life a measure by which other people should establish theirs? Why is your chosen life path any more valid than another's - simply because you do not share it?
I'm tired of running into this crap with men and I'm not going to pretend to care about video gaming just to amuse some guy. It gets childish at a certain point when you're in your mid thirties and playing around on video games all the time and don't have any type of ambition or plan for your life.
I'm in the middle of a real conversation with a guy and ask him a question, and he brings up a Zelda reference that completely takes away from the question I asked this guy.
So I said it's a stupid video game reference. What, we're gonna talk about Chutes and Latters, too? With Monopoly along with Sonic and Candyland and Mario, too?
I guess the bad part is that I think I might have hurt his feelings.
Don't generalize every dude like this.
and stop finding them on gamers dating sites or something
I have never been obsessed with video games. I find them to be an incredible waste of time. In fact I don't even have a single game on my phone. There are far too many productive things to be done. Sitting in front of the tv is not one of them.
and stop finding them on gamers dating sites or something
I'm not generalizing. I'm talking about HIM. He has no plan for himself. Yes he is 34, yes he does live at home. I never looked down on it until it started getting on my nerves him staying up at night playing games and sleeping at times in the day. I don't feel ignored, he gives me lots of attention that's not the issue. It's that he's a remarkable person and he doesn't have any ambition and I don't understand it.
I was asking him about what his plans are, what kind of lifestyle he wants in a different conversation a couple of days ago. He has no ambition at all and just wants to sleep, eat and play videogames.
He has a job he does on a contract basis that he got through his brother who was a manager at the company at the time. He doesn't even look for other work and wasn't even looking before this one was handed to him.
I guess I'm just harsh about it because I really like him and he seems to just throw away all his talent.I'm thinking maybe it was frustration about that, seemingly stuck in adolescence not wanting to do anything and spending too much time on gaming and it hurts to see him like that. It makes me mad.
I really like him and known him for a long time. I just finally said it's stupid and I know it hurt his feelings because he got really quiet and didn't say anything else but goodnight.
I haven't played video games in years since I had an Atari in high school. I enjoyed playing asteroids and warlords. However when I got out of high school that ended. I didn't have time to when I was in college between classes, working and band. My passion now (and for years) has been live music. The bottom line here is most people have something they are passionate about. If it's not something that you can deal with your best option is to move on. There are plenty of people who aren't into video games, as evidenced by the responses here.
I've never owned a video game console. When I was growing up my parents didn't have the money for that and by the time I had my own money I was too old to get into it.
I'm not generalizing. I'm talking about HIM. He has no plan for himself. Yes he is 34, yes he does live at home. I never looked down on it until it started getting on my nerves him staying up at night playing games and sleeping at times in the day. I don't feel ignored, he gives me lots of attention that's not the issue. It's that he's a remarkable person and he doesn't have any ambition and I don't understand it.
I was asking him about what his plans are, what kind of lifestyle he wants in a different conversation a couple of days ago. He has no ambition at all and just wants to sleep, eat and play videogames.
He has a job he does on a contract basis that he got through his brother who was a manager at the company at the time. He doesn't even look for other work and wasn't even looking before this one was handed to him.
I guess I'm just harsh about it because I really like him and he seems to just throw away all his talent.I'm thinking maybe it was frustration about that, seemingly stuck in adolescence not wanting to do anything and spending too much time on gaming and it hurts to see him like that. It makes me mad.
I really like him and known him for a long time. I just finally said it's stupid and I know it hurt his feelings because he got really quiet and didn't say anything else but goodnight.
Okay, so the two of you are not a good match. You were harsh and hurt his feelings, but at least you forced the breakup instead of trying to nag him into something he's not. How miserable for both of you. Onwards and upwards.
By the way, my husband and I each have our own XBox Ones and we play together, though not lately. We grew tired of killing Crota in Destiny and have not decided whether to play The Taken King yet. But winter is coming and gaming is a nice pastime when it's dark and snowy.
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I have never been obsessed with video games. I find them to be an incredible waste of time. In fact I don't even have a single game on my phone. There are far too many productive things to be done. Sitting in front of the tv is not one of them.
Is EVERY minute of our lives meant to be productive? Sometimes you should take a break from "productivity" and rest yourself. Video games are just one medium meant to do that.
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