To stay married or not...

[Checkered24]

Sounds like your marriage has been over since before 2010 when both of your infidelity was exposed. It was over when you both started seeking love and comfort with other people.

Since then, you two are going through the motions and playing house, while taking mean-spirited barbs at each other.

Since repairing and rebuilding your marriage sounds like an option the two of you have passed on, separating and divorcing is long overdue.

I cannot imagine what kind of bad example you are teaching your kids by showing them that "marriage" is a passionless, passive aggressive life lived in the same household as another person.

[Rowan123]

Originally Posted by RegalSin

Obey your husband and stop thinking about little things. do not be a coward and have things want to say then say, but do not run. If there are issues invite your mother or father to hang out with you guys for awhile. That is my idea. So far it sounds like your okay but have issues.

You do realize this is 2015 right? No reason for a grown woman to obey anyone.

OP if you think your marriage is worth saving, I'd suggest counseling. If he won't go consider going yourself to help sort out what you want. I'd be sure and keep your job (or look for one you don't hate) in case you need to support yourself.

[rego00123]

One hit wonder hitting all the right buttons.

you never had an acceptable realtionship so you would have to build one for their to be something worth saving.