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Unfortunately, this doesn't really work in our society. This is fine for the reclusive, maladjusted fellow who snidely dismisses his colleagues' immersion into family-formation at age 27 or 30 or whatnot. But as I've written before, it happens in most hobbies that the participants - male or female - drop out upon reaching a certain age, withdrawing into the family hearth. Look at the typical car-club, sport, fitness activity, meetup.com group... it is replete with the <30, and the 55+ crowd. At life's midpoint, the contingent is sparse. This means that our relationship-rejecting iconoclast now finds himself alone, which is to say even without the company of other men, to whom he could relate.
So here we are, in middle age, alone. Friendships, such as they are, are limited to colleagues at work. These are cordial, but hardly intimate.
More time passes. Knees get replaced, reading-glasses become necessary, hand-eye coordination falters. What has happened to the fellow who contended himself with "sticking to hobbies"? Now his age-cohort has reentered those hobbies, and in that sense, he's no longer alone. But they are changed men, while he remains stunted and invariant. Can he relate to his new hobby-mates? And what happens when the day's amusements end, and the other guys head home to their wives?
In a very real sense, success in relationships is congruent to success in life. Yes, life can be lived alone. But what sort of life is that?
You have to play the hand your dealt. If that means being alone and concentrating on ones hobbies, so be it.
So who says this? I am a woman and I've never had another woman say that men are afraid to approach her because she's too attractive. So I can only assume it's men who say this...
Women who think they are attractive, but really aren't, also say this.
Women who think they are attractive, but really aren't, also say this.
Also say what? That men don't approach them because they're too attractive as an excuse as to why men don't approach? Or.. Are you implying that I made the statement because I am not attractive?
Last edited by Sydney123; 10-06-2015 at 05:07 PM..
LOL @ all the bitter guys who get angry that attractive women might shoot them down because of something as superficial as how much money they make, when their whole basis of wanting to be with a woman is how attractive they think she is.
Oh, thank God there's at least one man on here who gets it. Thank you, JAG!
Also say what? That men don't approach them because they're too attractive as an excuse as to why men don't approach? Or.. Are you implying that I made the statement because I am not attractive?
Attractive women get hit on as much or more that less attractive women. Some women claim they don't get hit on because they are too attractive. This is not true.
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