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I find it slightly amusing when my paid subscription is about to expire and I suddenly start getting messages from women. has this happened to anyone else? Of course the conversation doesn't lead anywhere.
I'm in agreement that OLD is a failed social experiment for the vast majority. In my area the pickings are very slim. A couple here bring up attraction. It's one thing to have things physically not ideal about yourself that you have no control of. It's another when it's clear the women is not trying to look attractive. I have that a lot in my area. Overweight, obese, poorly dressed/ groomed, terrible attitude coming off in their profile, children who are "their world" coming #1 making it very clear you're down the ladder of importance from the beginning. The attitude is a huge turn off.
So the one's I message are generally fairly attractive, probably divorced, with children that look like they still make an effort to look nice. Not exactly holding the bar too high I don't think. Women on the other hand are as mentioned a lot of times weeding out physical characteristics of men on things they have no control over such as height for example. As mentioned, 6 foot plus seems to be on the filter for their 'match' more than not.
The custom messages doesn't work any better than saying 'hi' to someone. I'm in agreement with the post that suggests that many if not the majority of OLD profiles are dead or fake. So time to start saving money and stop donating to the cause which has been costly and fruitless.
I find it slightly amusing when my paid subscription is about to expire and I suddenly start getting messages from women. has this happened to anyone else? Of course the conversation doesn't lead anyw
I can not speak specifically of the website you refer to, but I know someone who is just paid to message people on such sites (to keep them on the sites).
Many of those sites have people with multiple fake profiles.
Especially women profiles (the ratio man vs female is completely idiotic) are often created to give people the idea there are real women on the site.
Here are some of the messages that I received in my online dating inbox:
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You are Attractive! Looks Do Matter! I am College educated Hopeless romantic.Very fit,5`8,180-85,blue eyes with a Muscular build AND My Mom Swears That I am a Great catch! Ex Marine,works in law enforcement.Never married or have kids but would like both with the right lady.
I Am The REAL Deal That TRULY Seeks The Real Thing! And I am Also Very Interested!....Alex...212-764-.....
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I had to tell you .... If the saying, "Beauty Is In The Eye Of The Beholder", has any validity to it, the pictures of you are... A poet’s inspiration... A painter’s motivation... A sculptor’s stimulation... Your beauty is the cause of the viewer’s sudden heart palpitations... Your beauty is the source of the viewer’s immediate elation... Your beauty, when beheld by ANYONE, will cause them to be thankful to God, your mother and father for such an immaculately beautiful creation........ One can only hope that your inner beauty is as equally stunning…… Rob
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I just wanted to say say hello. I like your profile and I am very interested in getting to know you! My name is Tony
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Women just should not be able to have an effect on a Man the way you possess....entirely unfair advantage.
You're like....
..walk'n thru the kitchen on Thanksgiving or Christmas and you just have to look under the lid of every pot & open the oven to see what's good.....Damn...I can't stop looking at you.
I am seriously considering deleting my profile. Why can't I just meet a good/nice guy, who is not creepy? Keep in mind, I didn't post any pics of me wearing tight skirts or even shorts.
I am seriously considering deleting my profile. Why can't I just meet a good/nice guy, who is not creepy. Keep in my, I didn't post any pics of me wearing tight skirts or even shorts. I have on a baseball cap and I'm simply wearing a tee w/ blue jeans and I have several pics of me hiking. LOL
What's wrong with those messages? They're over the top, but nothing like I image them to be when I hear/read the word "creepy".
#1 the close to "creepy", but tolerable. I still don't know what the deal is with capitalizing every word, let alone dragging his mother into the equation. Or giving out his phone number in the first message. It's more socially awkward than creepy, though. So it's relatively safe to give him a chance. Or not.
#2 is more fitting for a love letter at a 6-month relationship anniversary than a first message on a dating site. Sounds like someone who has a lot of love to give and no willing takers. If clinginess bothers you, don't reply; if not, give the man a chance.
#3 sounds perfectly fine to me. Short, sweet, honest, and to the point. The only thing I'd find wrong with it is that it's too generic. A short reference to something in your profile would have helped. But when men have to write 50 messages to get 1 reply, customizing all 50 of them gets really tedious.
#4 is the "creepiest" one, I'd say. The author is basically kissing the ground you walk on after seeing only a disembodied profile of you. Can't comment on what his deal is. I know better than to do that, at least. So it's good idea to stay away.
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What's wrong with those messages? They're over the top, but nothing like I image them to be when I hear/read the word "creepy".
#1 the close to "creepy", but tolerable. I still don't know what the deal is with capitalizing every word, let alone dragging his mother into the equation. Or giving out his phone number in the first message. It's more socially awkward than creepy, though. So it's relatively safe to give him a chance. Or not.
#2 is more fitting for a love letter at a 6-month relationship anniversary than a first message on a dating site. Sounds like someone who has a lot of love to give and no willing takers. If clinginess bothers you, don't reply; if not, give the man a chance.
#3 sounds perfectly fine to me. Short, sweet, honest, and to the point. The only thing I'd find wrong with it is that it's too generic. A short reference to something in your profile would have helped. But when men have to write 50 messages to get 1 reply, customizing all 50 of them gets really tedious.
#4 is the "creepiest" one, I'd say. The author is basically kissing the ground you walk on after seeing only a disembodied profile of you. Can't comment on what his deal is. I know better than to do that, at least. So it's good idea to stay away.
It's frustrating because 100% of the messages that I receive are vapid and superficial. Needless to say, I didn't reply to any of them.
In my experience, the online dating sites are a waste of time. It's far better to just meet people offline while hiking, jogging, and enjoying life.
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