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It's only lame because you deem it so, not because all reasons are actually not legitimate.
That's all that matters. I could really care less about my cheating partner lecturing me on human complexities and emotions that drove her to bang some dirty dick . To me, its deceitful, selfish and down right cowardly; its a black/white deal breaker (for me) and nobody can convince me otherwise
I hope you tell your partner that upfront. And if they ever did cheat they would never tell you with an outlook like that, which is unfortunate. It leaves no room for unconditional love.
I hope you tell your partner that upfront. And if they ever did cheat they would never tell you with an outlook like that, which is unfortunate. It leaves no room for unconditional love.
Rather than bashing men and women how about how terrible they are, they are a ***** or calling them names for cheating, lets discuss what drives men and women to cheat?
What do you think drives a person to cheat nowadays?
Any reasons, logic, and some psychology help to see why people would cheat on their partner
There are definitely a lot of factors but what would be the top reasons that cause or gives a person temptations of infidelity?
I personally do not think we were ever meant to be with just ONE person only, but instead we have been conditioned and programmed to be with one person through cultural conditioning such as Religion.
Me personally, I DO NOT get mad when a girl cheats on me, I expect it eventually. If you have been married to somebody for 10 plus years and think they HAVEN'T cheated on you at least once, you are seriously delusional in my opinion.
Women are more professional cheaters, it's very hard to catch them doing it and IF you catch them, they have this way of turning it back on YOU and making it YOUR fault for why she cheated.
Men are more stupid cheaters, which means we get caught easier and it's usually very hard to turn it around and blame the chick for our cheating.
But I think people need to come to terms that if your spouse or relationship partner is "good to you", and they just slip up and CHEAT on you one day, you need to learn how to work that out instead of just dumping the person and moving onto another person that will eventually CHEAT on you as well.
I hope you tell your partner that upfront. And if they ever did cheat they would never tell you with an outlook like that, which is unfortunate. It leaves no room for unconditional love.
A healthy romantic relationship is conditional, because certain actions and behaviors will inevitably erode that love. It is completely selfish and reinforces narcissism to have bad behavior continuously rewarded with unwavering forgiveness.
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Originally Posted by halfamazing
You are making the mistake that everyone thinks logically. Same way you only think that people should leave is the same way people will stay in a committed relationship while sneaking the extra piece of cake.
I just busted my daughter for sneaking another spoon of ice cream. It hurt me that she tried to lie. Does it mean she doesn't love me?
Are you asking me what I think, or telling me what I think? If you are asking: sneaking around is completely incompatible with a committed relationship that has the expectation of monogamy. Ask me for a hall pass and we'll talk, but lying and sneaking around is a deal-breaker.
I hope you tell your partner that upfront. And if they ever did cheat they would never tell you with an outlook like that, which is unfortunate. It leaves no room for unconditional love.
Oh, I drive it home again and again and again at the beginning of any serious relationship. If you're not happy (let me know) if something is bothering you (just talk to me) there's nothing I/we cant fix with communication; nothing! But if you elect to say nothing...there's nothing I can do.
That being said up front, there's no good reason/excuse for going off and cheating <That's the reason why I make it a nonnegotiable- not up for discussion- deal-breaker.
I hope you tell your partner that upfront. And if they ever did cheat they would never tell you with an outlook like that, which is unfortunate. It leaves no room for unconditional love.
Are you saying that unconditional love means you can do whatever you want and they'll still stick around?
You can lie to them.
You can hurt them.
You can disrespect them.
You can put another man first before yours.
You can do all that...but they will still love you back?
I think you're mistaking the term "unconditional love" with being a doormat.
Through your posts, you sound like you're justifying your cheating. If that makes you feel better inside, fine.
This post about unconditional love makes it sound like if a person cheated (which is wrong), the person who got cheated on and chooses not to take the person back is the one who never loved enough? Can this be any more twisted? You've all of a sudden turned the table around that if they choose to end the relationship because YOU strayed, you say it's their fault for not "loving unconditionally"?
How can you expect the other person to love you no matter what, when you can't even do the same? Even after signing a legally binding document, that didn't stop you from giving that love to another man. And you're the one expecting "unconditional love" because you had confessed?
It's hypocritical of you to expect "unconditional love", when the moment you're not feeling loved or appreciated by the one you married, you all of a sudden turn to another man.
I felt my needs/concerns were constantly being ignored or played down.
I probably would never do it again bc I felt so bad/guilty AND cheating is basically just trading one problem for another one. I am too emotionally tired for that crap.
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. To me, its deceitful, selfish and down right cowardly; its a black/white deal breaker (for me) and nobody can convince me otherwise 
