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Ever have this happen? Ever have it lead to anywhere? What kind of women have you had message you first?
It happens to me, but very rarely. Maybe once a month, if not less. Although only one was by a woman who I thought I'd be a good match with and I found attractive. She messaged me saying my pic captions were funny and made her laugh. So, I messaged her back and even threw in a little safe humor. Then...nothing.
Oh well, I figure just like with dating IRL, the first move has to be made by the guy more often than not. Still, curious about people's experiences.
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Ever have this happen? Ever have it lead to anywhere? What kind of women have you had message you first?
It happens to me, but very rarely. Maybe once a month, if not less. Although only one was by a woman who I thought I'd be a good match with and I found attractive. She messaged me saying my pic captions were funny and made her laugh. So, I messaged her back and even threw in a little safe humor. Then...nothing.
Oh well, I figure just like with dating IRL, the first move has to be made by the guy more often than not. Still, curious about people's experiences.
You'd be surprised. Most women make themselves available within approachable distances.
If she finds you attractive she will let you know by her body language. Technically, she is making the first move it's just your job to pick up on them.
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I've had girls initate contact with me on OLD. I've gone on dates with them. Problem is these ended up being girls I didn't contact first for a reason.
Ever have this happen? Ever have it lead to anywhere? What kind of women have you had message you first?
It happens to me, but very rarely. Maybe once a month, if not less. Although only one was by a woman who I thought I'd be a good match with and I found attractive. She messaged me saying my pic captions were funny and made her laugh. So, I messaged her back and even threw in a little safe humor. Then...nothing.
Oh well, I figure just like with dating IRL, the first move has to be made by the guy more often than not. Still, curious about people's experiences.
My experience is about the same. I'll get maybe one a month, almost exclusively from the exact same demographic. (For reference, I'm 36)
35-45 years old
single mother
intelligent
average looking
This would describe at least 75% of the women that have ever messaged me first. I've always at least tried to get a first date out of it (women that take initiative go a long way with me!)
I really only date casually for the most part. Most of the women that message me indicate that they're ok with that, and then switch gears after a month or two and move on.
I'm a woman, 45, divorced single mother, intelligent (I think) and hopefully above average looking. ;-)
Anyway, I messaged my boyfriend first, back in Feb. I noticed he LOOKED at my profile but never messaged me, I thought he was cute so shot him a message just saying "Hi there, I'm ____ " he replied back asking about my user name and we started messaging back and forth and met up the following week for drinks. That's been almost 8 months ago! FYI, I was also the one who finally went in for the kiss on the 3rd date... He's 41 BTW and had his "looking for" age capped at 44, so not sure how he even came across my profile, but I'm glad he did even if I was the one who took the initiative.
The woman who I have been in a relationship with close to a year now sent me a message first. She is a few years younger than me and widowed. She started the conversation about one of my pics that I posted of me at Zion Nat'l Park at the summit of Angels Landing. I had a profile on OKC for close to a month and had maybe a handful of women message me first, and not just "HEY" or "HI, WHAT'S UP". I just delete those.
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In the last 10 years, women have messaged me first, 2 or 3 times. I actually went on a couple dates with one. She was a college professor, and originally from New Zealand.
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Originally Posted by funymann
You'd be surprised. Most women make themselves available within approachable distances.
If she finds you attractive she will let you know by her body language. Technically, she is making the first move it's just your job to pick up on them.
The only date I've gone on from an OLD site was with someone I messaged first. He asked for a second date but I didn't feel a connection with him on the first date so I declined.
My experience has been that most of the men I have messaged don't respond. However, I also live in an area where men have a reputation for being "wishy-washy" and passive when it comes to dating and it's not uncommon for the woman to have to be the one to express interest.
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