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When i put my pic backup I got one mutual like on quick match so I messaged her figuring she was interested in me and she never responded back..old sucks
I disabled my account, but I'm tempted to put my more fun and playful picture back up and see what happens. Although I know the answer already: I may get a handful of profile views and may get a couple of messages that come with the warning to avoid internet scams but that's likely to be it. I think the last time I reactivated my account so I could review a profile for someone, I had maybe 3 profile views in the course of a weekend, and a quick search revealed no one new had signed up in the time I had been off the site (3 weeks, I think?)
I disabled my account, but I'm tempted to put my more fun and playful picture back up and see what happens. Although I know the answer already: I may get a handful of profile views and may get a couple of messages that come with the warning to avoid internet scams but that's likely to be it. I think the last time I reactivated my account so I could review a profile for someone, I had maybe 3 profile views in the course of a weekend, and a quick search revealed no one new had signed up in the time I had been off the site (3 weeks, I think?)
You post reminded me... the photo that caught the eye of the person I am now dating was a goofy, staged photo of me. We still talk about that picture. And it was just me being silly. Although that picture was buried along with others (it wasn't my main profile picture). Maybe there is something to humor and success. Might be worth a try to throw in one or two "funny photos."
I disabled my account, but I'm tempted to put my more fun and playful picture back up and see what happens. Although I know the answer already: I may get a handful of profile views and may get a couple of messages that come with the warning to avoid internet scams but that's likely to be it. I think the last time I reactivated my account so I could review a profile for someone, I had maybe 3 profile views in the course of a weekend, and a quick search revealed no one new had signed up in the time I had been off the site (3 weeks, I think?)
I just don't understand why I got a mutual like and no response back when I sent a message..Too many options I guess? Guys taller and better looking then me probably messaged her..
My style and grooming is fine it's probably my unattractive face that's the problem lol
Well, see, you may think your style and grooming are fine, but I can't tell you how many men think they have a good look for themselves who look 100 times better after some strategic plucking, a new hair style (or even some color), a change in facial hair (either adding or subtracting, depending on his bone structure), a little tooth whitener, some moisturizer, and a different wardrobe.
Sounds like a lot, but it's nothing we women don't deal with every day, not to change who we are, but to be the best versions of ourselves. For example, the difference in how I look wearing a yellow crew neck shirt and a black or dark jewel-tone V-neck is like the difference between night and day. I nearly look like two different people, no joke.
I'm not photogenic, myself, and definitely not photogenic if the picture is taken with a phone. Lots of info on the internet about how cell phones distort, but I also just don't have the angular face required for good pictures, so basically I come out looking like a pumpkin with Pinocchio's nose. It's awful. So any pictures I took of myself were with a digital camera from across the room, zoomed in (little trick I learned from a photographer buddy). Otherwise, I just used photos friends took.
I just don't understand why I got a mutual like and no response back when I sent a message..Too many options I guess? Guys taller and better looking then me probably messaged her..
Maybe she hasn't been on the site. My friend got a message back from a woman over a month after he contacted her. Maybe she met someone else. Maybe "she" was actually a fake profile designed to keep you on the site and "playing" Quickmatch.
My Quickmatch matches tend to be the same men over and over. I've determined that if a man "likes" me but I pass on QM, that profile will keep coming up to see if I've changed my mind. Same thing with Tinder - if I said no to someone, but yes when he came back up, every single time, it was a match. Not surprising that QM and Tinder would work similarly given Tinder and OKC are owned by the same company and QM is basically OKC's version of Tinder.
You post reminded me... the photo that caught the eye of the person I am now dating was a goofy, staged photo of me. We still talk about that picture. And it was just me being silly. Although that picture was buried along with others (it wasn't my main profile picture). Maybe there is something to humor and success. Might be worth a try to throw in one or two "funny photos."
I keep getting advised to show more pictures of me being active. I do have one of my hiking and one of me with my bike.
Photoshopping your photos will only set your date up for disappointment when you meet in person.
and that's exactly the point sometimes. Just as supermodels get photoshopped from their ugly selves.
a date and disappointment is better than no date at all, because there is a chance the superficial disappointment will be fleeting when you start talking.
If she is still hung up on the guy's appearance, then she is very shallow and not worth keeping anyway.
I just don't understand why I got a mutual like and no response back when I sent a message..Too many options I guess? Guys taller and better looking then me probably messaged her..
don't feel bummed by it. There are plenty of fish.
POF requires you to lower your standards a bit. You're being quite superficial too.
just as an experiment, try chatting up "girls in your league."
POF doesn't work the way you want it because all the 5's and 6's from both genders think they deserve 9's and 10's.
and when the 9's and 10's get together, they find out there's no frickin substance, so they keep fishing.
don't feel bummed by it. There are plenty of fish.
POF requires you to lower your standards a bit. You're being quite superficial too.
just as an experiment, try chatting up "girls in your league."
POF doesn't work the way you want it because all the 5's and 6's from both genders think they deserve 9's and 10's.
and when the 9's and 10's get together, they find out there's no frickin substance, so they keep fishing.
I'm on okcupid not pof..and I have no idea what my league is or who's in it..but I'm definitely not just going after 10's
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