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I dont get it. even if it's just sex, why can't the atmosphear afterward be cool and nice. Sure it was just sex, but why all the coldness and awkwardeness afterwards.
I just get bored. There's no incentive to be nice unless I want another round. What kind of question is
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Even if he is not interested, if a guy has sex with a woman usually he finds her attractive right? especially if the guy is an attractive guy and definitely not desperate.
He told you he wants a booty call, why complicate things for him?
I usually like a few moments to myself afterwords.
I get introverted and Don't really "want to" talk, I just want to chill out and relax.
It says nothing about how I feel or how much attraction I have for the indivual I just have had sex with, it's just how my body chemistry affects my behavior.
I just get bored. There's no incentive to be nice unless I want another round. What kind of question is
He told you he wants a booty call, why complicate things for him?
Just because it's a booty call you don't even need to be "pleasant" afterwards? It's like, if ya can't even be glad you got some for more than 5 minutes, there's really something wrong with you.
So I would like to ask guy what goes on in your mind after sex.
I met this guy, very nice guy. We went out a couple of times. then when he made sure I didnt want a relationship with him he texted me asking if I wanted to go over to his house at 10 pm. Which I did. and did a few more times after that on my request :P
Sex was great, and he was super sweet, but right after sex he would cuddle me for a little and then I would feel a weird tension. The first time he told me he doent like to sleep with people but that maybe I could sleep there another time (which I thought at least it wasnt just one night stand thing). When I texted him to meet again cause I really wanted to be with him again, he was excited about it. But again, after sex, he would get all cold and not confortable.
After the third time he told me he just wanted us to be friends because things would get complicated. I told him yes absolutely!
So now my question is: What happens to guys after sex? they realize they are not with the right woman? do they feel guilty? can they just enjoy it and have fun the whole way through?
And why stop it when you can just enjoy the sex with no strings attached?
And of course I have feelings for him, and he knows, but, How could I sleep with him if I didnt?
Because its just sex to a guy. He doesnt have to like you to have sex with you. If he liked you, he'd want to stay with you.
I've never had that experience so I can't comment but I do know that the men I have been with have acted differently afterwards. Neither of them were cold, just different. In an LTR where the guy was into me he wasn't necessarily cuddly afterwards but he wasn't cold either, and didn't withdraw, he always wanted us to spend the night together afterwards and I knew how he felt about me so I didn't question the way he acted afterwards In the short term relationship, he was sort of strange acting afterwards, he didn't necessarily want to cuddle, but he didn't mind body contact, but for the most part he always needed a few moments to get himself together. I wasn't really sure how much he cared about me, the way I was sure in my LTR, but I did know he did care, and this guy always wanted me to spend the night afterwards. I never did.
Since I don't know this guy and don't know why he does what he does I can't really tell you... But I can tell you that based on the experiences I have had with men and sex is that when a man is into you and wants something with you more than just a f*** then he isn't going to make you feel like a f***. Since he's made you feel like your just a f*** chances are you are just a f***.
Sorry for being crass but I'm keeping it 100 with you. You know somethings wrong, or else you wouldn't feel badly about his behavior, and he's even told you that he isn't interested in a relationship--so don't expect to be treated like he's into you when he's not. If you want to be treated like a man wants you, then only have sex with men that are in a relationship with you or that are interested in having a relationship with you.
Just because it's a booty call you don't even need to be "pleasant" afterwards? It's like, if ya can't even be glad you got some for more than 5 minutes, there's really something wrong with you.
Maybe OP's guy doesn't want her to get hopeful? She already expects too much from this booty call
My bf after sex gets all cuddly and super sweet and "lets hug eachother for hours" mood, and im a little more "i need my space" mood, though i do like one or two hugs, but i also like to look at the ceiling and think about nothing.
This haves nothing to do with what we feel about eachother, cause we are both in love.
When we started having sex, even the first time, when we werent bf-gf yet, he wanted me to sleepover (at his house), and i wanted to go home to my house, my bed, etc, cause i sleep better in my own bed. Then i had to learn to share the bed for him, cause i love him, and now i enjoy it .
What i mean is that i dont think this is a gender thing, people are people and we are all different.
It does sound like he only wants you as bootycall though, so you shouldnt be surprised about him being cold.
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What do you think or feel after sex?
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