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Hm...I see. Maybe try going longer, not just dating the next guy "in line", but being patient until one shows up who is not so, uh, low quality.
Can you describe what you want and need in a partner? Please be detailed, and avoid negatives, using more positive statements (ie avoid "not an ex-con", instead make that a given or state something like "law-abiding").
What goals, values, lifestyle, qualities, and interests should they have that are at least EQUAL to what you have to offer? How can you reasonably improve to attract what you want, in the case of wanting something you dont quite meet yourself yet?
61 dates in the span of a year? She's a "professional dater", you know, being wined and dined by random internet guys, and out of all those men, none were up to par.
I'm going to call B.S. on this one. This has the ingredients for a self-absorbed, delusional individual who's standards do not jive with reality.
61 dates in the span of a year? She's a "professional dater", you know, being wined and dined by random internet guys, and out of all those men, none were up to par.
I'm going to call B.S. on this one. This has the ingredients for a self-absorbed, delusional individual who's standards do not jive with reality.
At least that's what this smells like from here.
But she seems to get sexually involved with men who are low quality. Her standard is probably "chemistry", then. There is probably some self-esteem issue (pretty standard for self-absorped, delusional people) which is making her chemistry "off", aka, her instincts are leading her to bad guys who comfirm her low self-esteem. These men may pick up on the possible fact that she doesnt have defined values or boundaries she adheres to, instead going off of emotional and physical attraction, and so they take advantage of that for some months of fun, but they do not respect her enough to stick around.
This is why defining values, standards, genuine needs, etc, may help. She needs to weed out based on these, not just go for those she has chemistry with. It is a matter of being "picky" about the right things.
61 dates in the span of a year? She's a "professional dater", you know, being wined and dined by random internet guys, and out of all those men, none were up to par.
I'm going to call B.S. on this one. This has the ingredients for a self-absorbed, delusional individual who's standards do not jive with reality.
At least that's what this smells like from here.
LOL, the OP is a joke and every one of her threads are a joke and anyone that takes them seriously is being played... I'm shocked and amazed that she's, if it's even a woman, has been able to "survive" here as long as they have....... riding that gray area like a big dawg....
But she seems to get sexually involved with men who are low quality. Her standard is probably "chemistry", then. There is probably some self-esteem issue (pretty standard for self-absorped, delusional people) which is making her chemistry "off", aka, her instincts are leading her to bad guys who comfirm her low self-esteem. These men may pick up on the possible fact that she doesnt have defined values or boundaries she adheres to, instead going off of emotional and physical attraction, and so they take advantage of that for some months of fun, but they do not respect her enough to stick around.
This is why defining values, standards, genuine needs, etc, may help. She needs to weed out based on these, not just go for those she has chemistry with. It is a matter of being "picky" about the right things.
I may be wrong though.
**Fist Bump**
Now, let's go tag-team some clients. (not sexually, psychologically)
I'll print us some fake certificates and college degrees. You buy some cheap frames, we can hang 'em on the walls. I'll grow a beard, and you buy some outdated business-casual clothes and smear lipstick on your lower lip -- we will look like bonafide psychotherapists.
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LOL, the OP is a joke and every one of her threads are a joke and anyone that takes them seriously is being played... I'm shocked and amazed that she's, if it's even a woman, has been able to "survive" here as long as they have....... riding that gray area like a big dawg....
Kind of the gist I'm getting. Like I said earlier, posting for praise and validation. Very seldom do genuinely confused people proactively seek logical advice on a forum like this.
I'll print us some fake certificates and college degrees. You buy some cheap frames, we can hang 'em on the walls. I'll grow a beard, and you buy some outdated business-casual clothes and smear lipstick on your lower lip -- we will look like bonafide psychotherapists.
Kind of the gist I'm getting. Like I said earlier, posting for praise and validation. Very seldom do genuinely confused people proactively seek logical advice on a forum like this.
I love this place.
She's got about 5 threads that are just gems and no man with an ounce of brain would entertain a split second with her... like I said, I actually wonder if it's some woman hater disguised as a women just to make women look bad... you know what I mean......otherwise there's no logic that I can get my simple little mind to understand....
So what do say, is it that some women are just disposable? What makes them so?
Yes, women with 2+ kids are considered disposable by men that have other options, even by some men with no other options.
You forgot you had 2 kids again. Doh!
I'm not sure why some people think it's impossible for a woman to act like this. It's funny how every time an off the wall thread is posted by a female poster some people automatically think it's a dude who's trolling. There are some clueless women out there and this is the kind of thing they are clueless about.
Maybe the reason why the OP is having this problem is that she simply can't stand being by herself and therefore comes off as desperate and men can pick up on it.
I mean even in the 8 months she was 'single' she went on 61 dates before settling for a man she initially thought of as a friend because she couldn't stand being alone anymore. Do you really think men can't sense that.
There are a number of women out there who are like this and have the same exact problem the OP has.
I'm not sure why some people think it's impossible for a woman to act like this. It's funny how every time an off the wall thread is posted by a female poster some people automatically think it's a dude who's trolling. There are some clueless women out there and this is the kind of thing they are clueless about.
Maybe the reason why the OP is having this problem is that she simply can't stand being by herself and therefore comes off as desperate and men can pick up on it.
I mean even in the 8 months she was 'single' she went on 61 dates before settling for a man she initially thought of as a friend because she couldn't stand being alone anymore. Do you really think men can't sense that.
There are a number of women out there who are like this and have the same exact problem the OP has.
I never think it's a dude who's trolling normally....... but this poster has a long long history of ridiculousness beyond normalcy... LOL.... go back and read her posts and you might just change your mind....
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