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"Yes!!! Porn has ruined men on so many levels, dont get me started on that one!! I am part of the last generation that knew life pre and post internet porn and its not pretty. If i could say one thing to younger men to improve the quality of their lives it would be to never watch internet porn again. Porn has killed men socially and sexually, they don't approach real women anymore, they dont get turned on by real women, they are terrible at sex, they are wasting their sexuality in basements by themselves watching homo erotic images day in and day out. Its the saddest thing. Straight porn has nothing to do with feminine sexuality, its all male centric. Men should be learning about sex with real women, not online. Men used to be romantic, intense, sexual and masculine, not anymore. Now when a man sees a hot woman in real life he just stares at her longingly, does nothing, then just goes home and jerks to porn. Such a waste. Dont get me wrong, women are also ****ed up now to in their own way and its bad on both sides but im talking about porn. If i meet anyone again i hope he doesnt watch porn and i hope more and more men wake up and join the nofap or noporn movements. Sorry, bit of a rant there."
"Men are feminized now though, those days are done.
women are generally attracted to strong masculine men, especially beautiful feminine women, thats how nature made it.
20 years ago this wasnt even a debate, men just naturally enjoyed chasing women, now they want to be passive and sit back while the women chase them
I think the whole problem with men now is that they care too much how they will come off, if she will judge or reject him, but strong men shouldnt give a **** either way, strong men need strong egos that dont give a **** what a woman thinks so they just go for what they want. Thats what women find sexy. Men are so afraid of everything now. It never used to be like that."
Imo Men approaching has little to do with women finding it attractive and more to do with them wanting to be lazy and not risk rejection. Women want to be able to find what they want with as little risk as possible
I will say that I can see the author's point, and I don't disagree with the first paragraph. I feel strongly about the nature of porn in modern day, and not because I have a moral stance against it. I don't. I just think it contributes to many issues the author addresses.
A lot of my partners that were <35 years old were, how do I say it, so wrapped up in acting out what they see in porn than experiencing real intimacy. It was so painfully obvious. They weren't experienced with true intimacy and knowing how to please a partner. They just wanted to act out or mimic what they saw in porn. Yeah... no. "Can I slap your face?" "Can I do X on your face?" *blank stare*
The young men just seemed clueless. The better/best partners were typically older 35+, usually at least late 30s+, or had a long term relationship/marriage and had a great teacher.
I will say that I can see the author's point, and I don't disagree with the first paragraph. I feel strongly about the nature of porn in modern day, and not because I have a moral stance against it. I don't. I just think it contributes to many issues the author addresses.
A lot of my partners that were <35 years old were, how do I say it, so wrapped up in acting out what they see in porn than experiencing real intimacy. It was so painfully obvious. They weren't experienced with true intimacy and knowing how to please a partner. They just wanted to act out or mimic what they saw in porn. Yeah... no. "Can I slap your face?" "Can I do X on your face?" *blank stare*
The young men just seemed clueless. The better/best partners were typically older 35+, usually at least late 30s+, or had a long term relationship/marriage and had a great teacher.
I definitely agree that porn is destructive or counterproductive at best. I just want to see where this quote came from.
Why all the porn hate? I've gotten some of my best ideas from porn.
Also, having married a very religious guy who self diagnosed as addicted to porn but was a virgin when we married, thank goodness he watched porn and knew where to put things when the wedding night came. He went through a program to get over his "addiction " so he no longer watches porn. Part of our current struggle involves the deep seeded guilt he associates with porn and it effects our sex life. He says he doesn't want to use sex with me like he used porn, as a stress reliever. So he plays video games to de stress instead. Well, *** me, I want sex and I don't care if he uses me, I'm his wife and I'm always ready to go :/
That's how porn has affected my relationship. Not what the OP is addressing exactly, but porn isn't necessarily evil or bad. So many things can distract a guy or girl from developing or nurturing a romantic relationship, if it's not porn it will be something else. Videogames, football, poker night, drugs, alcohol........etc.
Also porn has been around and available throughout the centuries in varying degrees depending on the cultural acceptance level of sex and sexual expression. Instead of vilifying porn how about addressing what compels men and women to seek porn instead of a physical relationship. In my hubby's case it was a sexually repressive religious upbringing.
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