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Originally Posted by April R
Give him honest ground rules with real consequences if he breaks them. I wouldn't throw the baby out with the bath water just yet since you aren't married. Have a real heart to heart with him and clearly spell out what you will and won't accept and tell him he can get out of the engagement if he isn't willing to accept your terms.
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I think it's already pretty obvious that this is unacceptable behavior when you get engaged. What is having this conversation going to add? Like, he didn't already know but after this conversation a light blub will go off?
And I'm not sure but are you saying she should give him another chance since, after all, they aren't married yet? On the contrary - this should be the honeymoon phase! If he's reaching out to have sex with other men while they are in their honeymoon phase, what's going to happen in 5 years when he's a little bored?
OP, let it go. This was not meant to be and you will be setting yourself up for a life time of anguish if you try to make this work. He's gay. He's a liar. He's a cheater and has no issue with betraying you. What more do you need to know?