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Anger is not a normal emotion to have in such a situation.
He knows that. I've asked him to get therapy but he said he has to look inward and figure out how to fix himself, he doesn't think a therapist can help him with anything he doesn't already know.
He knows that. I've asked him to get therapy but he said he has to look inward and figure out how to fix himself, he doesn't think a therapist can help him with anything he doesn't already know.
Just an FYI, guys who say that don't ever end up fixing the problem.
Just an FYI, guys who say that don't ever end up fixing the problem.
I can't just give up on him either. I almost threw away my marriage because I fell for another guy but stop short of having Sex with the other guy. I told my husband about it, he forgave me, and he wants me to stay. So if he can put up with me I have to put up with him.
I can't just give up on him either. I almost threw away my marriage because I fell for another guy but stop short of having Sex with the other guy. I told my husband about it, he forgave me, and he wants me to stay. So if he can put up with me I have to put up with him.
I don't think you should give up on him. I just think he needs to realize he can't do this on his own.
I don't think you should give up on him. I just think he needs to realize he can't do this on his own.
I think he will. If I ask to see a couple's therapist and make the arrangements he'd go. He saw a school therapist during Pharmacy school because of stress so I think if I'm gentle with him and make seeing a therapist now a choice and not an ultimatum he'll eventually come around.
I think he will. If I ask to see a couple's therapist and make the arrangements he'd go. He saw a school therapist during Pharmacy school because of stress so I think if I'm gentle with him and make seeing a therapist now a choice and not an ultimatum he'll eventually come around.
Ah yes. Men often need to think it was their own idea
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Originally Posted by MissClutterbuck
Anger is not a normal emotion to have in such a situation.
I don't agree. April's husband is probably more frustrated which naturally segways to anger. Men are fixers by biology and when a person we love is crying and we are helpless to fix it for lack of knowledge, naturally men will get frustrated and again, typically that segways to anger.
The last time I had this issue was when my grandmother dies. I had been all cried out when the funeral came but mom held it all in until she saw my grandma in the casket. I felt helpless and frustrated knowing I couldn't do a thing that would really comfort her like brining my grandma back.
I don't agree. April's husband is probably more frustrated which naturally segways to anger. Men are fixers by biology and when a person we love is crying and we are helpless to fix it for lack of knowledge, naturally men will get frustrated and again, typically that segways to anger.
The last time I had this issue was when my grandmother dies. I had been all cried out when the funeral came but mom held it all in until she saw my grandma in the casket. I felt helpless and frustrated knowing I couldn't do a thing that would really comfort her like brining my grandma back.
You also freely admit that anger is a major problem for you, and that it is the only emotion you really feel comfortable with.
I don't agree. April's husband is probably more frustrated which naturally segways to anger. Men are fixers by biology and when a person we love is crying and we are helpless to fix it for lack of knowledge, naturally men will get frustrated and again, typically that segways to anger.
The last time I had this issue was when my grandmother dies. I had been all cried out when the funeral came but mom held it all in until she saw my grandma in the casket. I felt helpless and frustrated knowing I couldn't do a thing that would really comfort her like brining my grandma back.
I agree. He comes from a large family where he was smack dab in the middle and rarely paid attention to, so he sees crying and helplessness as weakness and hates when he can't make me feel better. I understand how frustrating and angry that would make him.
Sorry I see it as the other way around totally. I think on a daily basis I see more men around the age of 40 in good shape than women.
First of all, I never said anything about good or bad shape (in terms of health, physical fitness).
Second of all, I disagree that there are more men in-shape, but we have to realize that men and women have different definitions of in-shape. For men, being in-shape means lifting weights and having visible muscle. Nevermind if they're technically overweight ("It's all muscle weight!") or if their kidneys are toast from all those supplements. When I go to the gym, there are more women and they are doing more constructive workouts and I know they eat better.
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