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Okay so I am not by any means trying to demean anyone whatsoever for their interests or hobbies nor am I trying to come across as sexist in any way because this only applies to me and my personal dating preferences but I am a guy who isn't necessarily into "manly" stuff (power tools, working on a car, hunting, fishing, etc.) I am more of a nerd to be honest.
That being said, there is a woman who really has a thing for me as we have met, talked a few times, and been on a few dates but she is very much into more "manly" stuff like I had mentioned before. Now like I said, women have just as much of a right to hold those hobbies, interests but when it comes to who I am dating and what my interests are, this has greatly turned me off as I can't help but feeling "emasculated." The other thing that not just with this particular woman who I have basically told it was not going to go any further because after giving it a chance I just couldn't help but feel that way, but these are the women that just seem to be more attracted to me for whatever reason and despite this or how great they maybe, I just cannot help it being a turnoff and having a much greater desire for a woman who is not that way.
Okay so I am not by any means trying to demean anyone whatsoever for their interests or hobbies nor am I trying to come across as sexist in any way because this only applies to me and my personal dating preferences but I am a guy who isn't necessarily into "manly" stuff (power tools, working on a car, hunting, fishing, etc.) I am more of a nerd to be honest.
That being said, there is a woman who really has a thing for me as we have met, talked a few times, and been on a few dates but she is very much into more "manly" stuff like I had mentioned before. Now like I said, women have just as much of a right to hold those hobbies, interests but when it comes to who I am dating and what my interests are, this has greatly turned me off as I can't help but feeling "emasculated." The other thing that not just with this particular woman who I have basically told it was not going to go any further because after giving it a chance I just couldn't help but feel that way, but these are the women that just seem to be more attracted to me for whatever reason and despite this or how great they maybe, I just cannot help it being a turnoff and having a much greater desire for a woman who is not that way.
Any thoughts?
So you don't have much in common.
We could get into the psychology of why you claim it's not a sexist view yet you still feel "emasculated," but I'm not sure it's a good idea.
It's okay if you're not attracted to that type of woman. It's nobody's business who you date. Go after the types of women who appeal to you, and with whom you have things in common.
Look, you're free to pass on a woman for any reason you legitimately believe makes you and she incompatible.
With that said, if she likes you despite your interests and hers being deemed more masculine, what's the problem? My wife recently has taken an interest in craftsmanship and has steadily built up a collection of power tools. I've bought her a few as well. We have an unfinished room in our basement that is her "workshop" and she's churned out a few minor projects that look really good. I'm proud of her. She's taken an interest in something and has gotten after it. I don't feel the least bit emasculated despite knowing I'd not be able to come close to replicating her work.
You are choosing to feel emasculated. Give it some additional thought. See if you can share in each other's interests. Don't write her off because she likes things you deem are more masculine.
If you have little or nothing in common and you feel that makes for an incompatible match then don't take it further. My husband is not a "manly man" as commonly understood (not into sports, hunting, fishing, etc.) and preferred to date fellow nerds/geeks. I'm the same way.
Is she into hunting, power tools, working on cars, and fishing? Please clarify. What are you into?
If two people have nothing in common, it is not going to work. But if you can find something in common, go for it.
See and I honestly think this may have answered or helped to answer my question, we just are not into a lot of the same things. I am more into things like politics, current events, things like that, and I mean she is into all that as well, but I just can't for whatever reason, be attracted to her or any of the other women that I have gone out with recently because they just all tend to be similar to her and I don't know if it is something I am doing that is giving off a vibe, or something else, I just can't no matter how much I try get over the fact that they are into more "manly" stuff than I am, despite how great they are.
Sound like bc you think those are *manly* things (btw, they are not) and you don't do them, these women are a threat to your masculinity. Like when dudes don't like when women make more than them.
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