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I understand that, and I have seen the statistics but I'm still skeptical. Attraction is so subjective and trying to assign a percentage seems kind of silly. I'm not sure I'd put myself in this so-called "top 20%" and yet I've had decent success in dating.
I agree with you.
I believe it's just more BS that hinders more than helps.
Every few weeks, someone likes to share the stat that women supposedly find most men unattractive.
Let's imagine a world where everyone thought everyone was attractive. When would people get anything done? Everyone would be flirting and trying to attract everyone all day. It would be impossible to read signals because everyone would send signals to everyone. It would be impossible to tell who was paired with who. Everyone would be competing with everyone for the same people.
Sounds awful.
It's called being on Ecstasy.
But then personality would come into play. Sure, casual sex would be easy as hell, but you'd only form actual relationships to people you'd actually like.
A lot of people (both men and women, so I am not picking on anyone) often find someone who is very attractive and willing to have sex with them. Because of this, they mistake this for love and often end up in a really bad place because they are so gaga over the looks of the person that they do not understand that their lover is actually complete scum.
Now, of course you'd still get people who'd end up with s--tty people because they like Bad Boys or Bitchy Girls, but you'd get a lot fewer people who are fooled because they have a poop filled diamond playing them.
I understand that, and I have seen the statistics but I'm still skeptical. Attraction is so subjective and trying to assign a percentage seems kind of silly. I'm not sure I'd put myself in this so-called "top 20%" and yet I've had decent success in dating.
Well, there's a few points to be made:
1) The whole "top X%" refers to attraction, not just physical attraction. Maybe you're intelligent? Funny? Charming? Etc?
2) It doesn't imply that if you're not part of the "top X%" that you can't get a date at all. Obviously that's not true.
3) It definitely shouldn't be used as a scapegoat of any kind. Everyone is responsible for their own success in whatever endeavors they make.
Every few weeks, someone likes to share the stat that women supposedly find most men unattractive.
Let's imagine a world where everyone thought everyone was attractive. When would people get anything done? Everyone would be flirting and trying to attract everyone all day. It would be impossible to read signals because everyone would send signals to everyone. It would be impossible to tell who was paired with who. Everyone would be competing with everyone for the same people.
Sounds awful.
WWO?
I am not attracted to too many ladies. I don't know if it's location or what but I hardly do a double take.
If you're able to be attractive to a larger number of people it certainly gives you more options. I know I don't pigeon hole myself into only being attracted to a certain "type" or race. I like fit girls, curvy girls, taller, shorter, redheads, blondes, brunettes, etc. Some guys will seriously be like "OK, she must be blonde & between 5'3" and 5'7" with green eyes, C cups, and between a size 2 and 6."
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