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[color="RoyalBlue"]This topic may have been discussed here before, but since it came up in another thread, I thought it would make a good topic of discussion.
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Dating is about getting to know someone better. Unfortunately, chronic pain tends to limit someone's activities and can affect their personality in a negative way.
I might date someone for awhile to see if it was worth it, but if I was omniscient, I'd focus on someone more active who takes fewer drugs.
I think there is a lot to consider. First thing would be your own age. When people reach their 40s a lot of people suffer from chronic pain. Some more so than others (bad back, bad knee, old sports injuries flaring up, arthritis, etc). So it's pretty common and overall pretty mild. I have an old knee injury that bothers me every now and then (although I never complain about it and I don't even think the person I am dating knows). It usually only bugs me after running.
Then again, they have their own issues (usually back... but that's quickly gotten rid of with a nice back rub which somehow often leads to sex which is kind of funny). And as Hawaiian said it may also depend on how it's managed. Some people whine all the time. My SO's ex had constant pain too due to a back injury and the "solution" was to cheat for some reason. Yeah, that's not an acceptable option.
Not dating someone with aches and pains are you get older is like refusing to date someone with wrinkles as you get older. You might be able to pull it off, but chances are you are going to end up alone and disappointed for being so picky and judgmental on something that's going to happen to you too most likely.
I think there is a lot to consider. First thing would be your own age. When people reach their 40s a lot of people suffer from chronic pain. Some more so than others (bad back, bad knee, old sports injuries flaring up, arthritis, etc). So it's pretty common and overall pretty mild. I have an old knee injury that bothers me every now and then (although I never complain about it and I don't even think the person I am dating knows). It usually only bugs me after running.
Then again, they have their own issues (usually back... but that's quickly gotten rid of with a nice back rub which somehow often leads to sex which is kind of funny). And as Hawaiian said it may also depend on how it's managed. Some people whine all the time. My SO's ex had constant pain too due to a back injury and the "solution" was to cheat for some reason. Yeah, that's not an acceptable option.
Not dating someone with aches and pains are you get older is like refusing to date someone with wrinkles as you get older. You might be able to pull it off, but chances are you are going to end up alone and disappointed for being so picky and judgmental on something that's going to happen to you too most likely.
Since nearly everyone has some kind of chronic pain, I doubt that would be considered a disorder. However, if someone had fibromyalgia or something severe enough to warrant medication, I'd hope not to become emotionally invested if I could pick and choose.
Family members and friends who have this problem deserve our dedication, but when shopping fro a new life partner, wouldn't you hope for someone who is a good match for what you hope to share in life?
I think there is a lot to consider. First thing would be your own age. When people reach their 40s a lot of people suffer from chronic pain. Some more so than others (bad back, bad knee, old sports injuries flaring up, arthritis, etc). So it's pretty common and overall pretty mild. I have an old knee injury that bothers me every now and then (although I never complain about it and I don't even think the person I am dating knows). It usually only bugs me after running.
Then again, they have their own issues (usually back... but that's quickly gotten rid of with a nice back rub which somehow often leads to sex which is kind of funny). And as Hawaiian said it may also depend on how it's managed. Some people whine all the time. My SO's ex had constant pain too due to a back injury and the "solution" was to cheat for some reason. Yeah, that's not an acceptable option.
Not dating someone with aches and pains are you get older is like refusing to date someone with wrinkles as you get older. You might be able to pull it off, but chances are you are going to end up alone and disappointed for being so picky and judgmental on something that's going to happen to you too most likely.
Uhmmmm...I think you've been duped! Back pain relieved by a massage and followed by sex is obviously NOT chronic!
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Probably not. Being around someone with a medical issue that significantly limits what they can do in a day is not fun. At age 27, I could not tolerate that for long.
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I think there is a lot to consider. First thing would be your own age. When people reach their 40s a lot of people suffer from chronic pain. Some more so than others (bad back, bad knee, old sports injuries flaring up, arthritis, etc). So it's pretty common and overall pretty mild. I have an old knee injury that bothers me every now and then (although I never complain about it and I don't even think the person I am dating knows). It usually only bugs me after running.
Then again, they have their own issues (usually back... but that's quickly gotten rid of with a nice back rub which somehow often leads to sex which is kind of funny). And as Hawaiian said it may also depend on how it's managed. Some people whine all the time. My SO's ex had constant pain too due to a back injury and the "solution" was to cheat for some reason. Yeah, that's not an acceptable option.
Not dating someone with aches and pains are you get older is like refusing to date someone with wrinkles as you get older. You might be able to pull it off, but chances are you are going to end up alone and disappointed for being so picky and judgmental on something that's going to happen to you too most likely.
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Uhmmmm...I think you've been duped! Back pain relieved by a massage and followed by sex is obviously NOT chronic!
ha ha. Naive you are Renee. lol
I couldn't handle being with someone that suffered from chronic pain that limited their everyday life. I had to turned down a guy that really wanted to go out with me. He has degenerated disc back disease. As nice he seemed to be, I didn't want to deal with someone else's chronic health issues. Sorry if that made me sound selfish
By the time you knew I suffered from chronic pain, you'd already be hooked and it would be too late.
Honestly, my condition is moderate at worst so it doesn't affect my daily life. I don't take pain meds anymore either, diminishing returns and all that.
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