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Originally Posted by joshuason77
Oh guys come on, don't you think friendship between men and women aren't dangerous? Come on...In every friendship, always has one who develops feelings, always!
Nope. Not always. I've had female friends since high school (25+ years) where neither of us ever developed feelings beyond our caring for each other as friends.
Sorry. Wrong again.
Besides, just because feelings might arise, it doesn't mean you still can't be friends. Most evolved adults can control them and not act on them and continue to be sincere friends.
Oh guys come on, don't you think friendship between men and women aren't dangerous? Come on...In every friendship, always has one who develops feelings, always!
It doesn't matter if one of them develops feelings, as long as the other one isn't interested. Usually, the one who develops feelings keeps it to himself if the other is in a relationship. If your gf isn't interested in the guy in that way, there's nothing to worry about.
Oh guys come on, don't you think friendship between men and women aren't dangerous? Come on...In every friendship, always has one who develops feelings, always!
You do have a point there...but it doesn't always happen. Only when there's a spark, then look out.
Oh guys come on, don't you think friendship between men and women aren't dangerous? Come on...In every friendship, always has one who develops feelings, always!
No. I don't think that friendships are dangerous. But then again I know how to act like an adult and take relationships seriously.
You sound like you have some serious issues to work through.
Ok then you need to grow up a little bit and not worry that your girlfriend is seeing a life coach or counselor or whatever.
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Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life
Your being THIS JEALOUS over something like this indicates that you have some serious self-esteem problems, too.
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Originally Posted by joshuason77
But either way i'm still suspicious about her. Its hard for me to trust women...
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Originally Posted by joshuason77
I just can't trust in women, i just don't trust them! I don't know what to do!
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Originally Posted by timberline742
Stop dating and leave women alone until you get your act together.
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Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76
I second this.
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Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life
You need to break up with her.
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Originally Posted by gouligann
I'd run the other way if I was her.
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Originally Posted by snugglegirl05
OP:
Time to take a break from this relationship.
Both of you need to do this.
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Originally Posted by Just A Guy
The issues you are having are things you should have gotten over by the time you were 20. You should really think about therapy for yourself for your insecurities over these issues.
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
Yours is a strange reaction. Male therapists and coaches have lots of female clients, and female coaches and therapists have lots of male clients. It's normal. Get used to it. If you can't, then get therapy yourself for your issues.
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Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76
You either trust someone or you don't. If you don't trust them, you shouldn't be with them. If you don't trust women as a whole - you shouldn't be in a relationship.
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Originally Posted by fleetiebelle
It doesn't particularly matter what a bunch of other people on the internet say or even what the life coach's intentions are. The OP, in particular, doesn't trust his girlfriend to speak to another man without jumping into bed with him. That's not the foundation of a strong, healthy relationship.
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Originally Posted by TabulaRasa
But, really, your outlook overall is seriously warped.
Read all of these ^^^ and then step back and understand that YOU have problems you need professional help with.
My wife and I have plenty of friends of the opposite sex. I'm happy spending time with my female friends just as she is happy spending time with her male friends. Maybe I forgot to mention, my wife and I tend to spend that time together.
That's not to say I don't trust her - I absolutely do. If she were to go to a movie with one of her male friends and I with one of my female friends, it wouldn't be an issue. However, my male friends and her female friends are all married.
BUT, there is never a time when my wife is spending multiple hours over a period of weeks alone with one of them, sharing her most intimate details.
What does that have to do with anything? I'm dating someone. What our agreement is really isn't your business.
Just wondering how the male/female relationship dynamics work in a committed relationship. If there are limits you have voluntarily placed on your interactions with female friends and if so, who are you to judge when a person has a different level of comfort and limitations for opposite sex friendships within a committed relationship?
It doesn't matter if one of them develops feelings, as long as the other one isn't interested. Usually, the one who develops feelings keeps it to himself if the other is in a relationship. If your gf isn't interested in the guy in that way, there's nothing to worry about.
BTW, have you asked her if he has a gf?
That does matter. It's super painful to be in love with someone you know won't love you back and being friends is nearly impossible if they know. Also on the flip side it's super awkward to be the one someone is in love with when you can't reciprocate and makes you feel like crap knowing they want to be more than friends when you can't see them that way.
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